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Focussing on the positives-

DeterminedSenior Contributor29 May 2017, 6:12 am AEST

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

Something postiive that has happened today.
Something to be grateful for today.
If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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soulSenior Contributor14 June 2017, 10:24 pm AEST

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Oopsie @Determined, We all have to have a bit of a rant sometimes. Liking this positivity thing you have going.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor14 June 2017, 10:39 pm AEST

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That one was more thinking out loud than a rant @soul , about somthing I used to enjoy and why it now seems all to hard . All good 😆.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor15 June 2017, 7:45 pm AEST

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Positive for today

My darling continues to be happy and reasonably well adjusted. (Relatively speaking).
I am enjoying the smiles and there is a `spark' in her eyes that has not been there for a long time.
We have even had some boundary related discussions that have gone better than expected.

I have no illusions that we still have a long road to full recovery (if that is even possible) in front of us however I am grateful for the reprieve while it lasts 🙂

Something that made me laugh

The excitement bub showed and his little song and dance when darling arrived home from school with his brothers.

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soulSenior Contributor15 June 2017, 8:04 pm AEST

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Sounds like you have had a really nice day @Determined. Hope there are many more like that to come. How is the study coming along?

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DeterminedSenior Contributor15 June 2017, 8:21 pm AEST

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Big zippo on the study today unfortunately @soul, have a lot of catching up to do tomorrow and over the weekend. Feeling washed out and achy at the moment. Hanging on for another week and after my last exam.

Had a peadiatric appointment for bub this morning. Will require monitoring into the future in a couple of areas but mostly a positive visit. Bub happy as always.

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soulSenior Contributor15 June 2017, 8:34 pm AEST

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So it was a rest day from study @Determined. Put your notes under your pillow and you will absorb them as you sleep. True story!!

I remember in high school recording some quotes and playing them whilst I slept thinking my subconscious mind would take it all in.

Take care of yourself - washed out and achy doesn't sound good.

Good news for Bub's check up.

I need to create something to look forward to. Nothing much on the calendar at the moment.

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Unknown userMember17 June 2017, 9:26 am AEST

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Hey @Determined positive that Darling thought of you and got you the treats. Opportunity for you to show her appreciation.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor17 June 2017, 4:19 pm AEST

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That is a huge positive @Former-Member
She has even modified some of her desired activities for the weekend in order to help me be able to focus on studies. I am most grateful for the increased awareness and support. 🙂

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Unknown userMember17 June 2017, 4:23 pm AEST

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@Determined, I know your Darling will not remember much around ECT but how is her other memory? For example does she remember S3 being born?

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Unknown userMember17 June 2017, 4:42 pm AEST

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@Determined it is me being a huge sticky beak but it would be lovely to hear if memory was relatively intact. ECT really worked for Mr Darcy the first time. Problems continued to occur as his Dx was not established and he was given meds that did not help.

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