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Focussing on the positives-

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

  1. Something postiive that has happened today.
  2. Something to be grateful for today.
  3. If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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Thanks @soul, if only it were that easy lol, 😴

Somthing positive, I actually slept better than expected last night.

Something else positive, cold mornings mean our boys stay in bed for longer.

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That's your body behaving better than your mind and getting the rest that it needs @Determined. I am out walking with a pooch who was somewhat reluctant to embark but is now making the most of the snuffing opportunities that abound

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@Determined

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Day's not over yet so still hopeful for a pleasant surprise but this is the best I can manage so far....

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Made me laugh anyway theres 1 out of 3

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Your display pic gets my tick of approval @Determined

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Thank you for encouraging me to aim higher @soul 🙂

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Day 3 (Friday 31 May)

Somthing positive:
No matter what is going on around us Bub is always happy (or at least trying to be happy)
Even with teethng at the moment and all of the anxiety and tension he is such a joy to be around and exudes so much love and affection.

Something to be greatful for:
Grateful for the security of a roof over our heads and that I dont have to worry where my chlidren will be sleeping tomorow or what will they have to eat.

Somthing that made me laugh:
I have tried hard but all out of laughs today unfortunatly. Better luck tomorrow.

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Don't you just love the innocence of children @Determined. The way they view life, how they run and shriek and laugh so much. We lose that as we grow up. I cherished each moment with my children as they were growing up; I still do largely. I wonder if I will ever experience the joy of grandchildren. Daughter says no way to children, son is ambivalent.

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