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Focussing on the positives-

DeterminedSenior Contributor

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

  1. Something postiive that has happened today.
  2. Something to be grateful for today.
  3. If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Complicated @Faith-and-Hope
Mum has been a big help over the last 6 - 12 months before that we have had issues with severed apron strings and varying ideas on child rearing. (My children but expected to do it her way).

Don't have a lot of time for my sister. Causes more problems than she solves.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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LoL did I mention that when the old duck (friend of sister) turned up to get the dogs her response was oh.... i thought they were only little...

Probably should have asked was it going to be a problem but that can be the sisters problem. Head firmly in the sand in that regard. For a trained social worker sis definatly needs to work on her communication skills.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Any more house sitting problems and this will be me

(Good in theory anyway)

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soulSenior Contributor

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You've got enough on your plate @Determined to have to worry about all the other cr*p that's going on.

It's okay to let off a bit of steam sometimes. It makes you human. Wishing better days ahead for you and the family.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Something to be grateful for today,

ITS RAINING !!!!! 😆😆😆😆😆

Love the sound of water running into the tanks and really hoping this may relieve some stress for my darling.

Not the heavy rain that was predicted but rain is rain and we are most thankful.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Second thing to be grateful for this morning

Was supposed to be meeting for group work today but have done nothing to prepare due to the weekends excitement. Was feeling embarrassed and not looking forward to having to explain why I was not prepared. Well I just received a text asking if we could put it off until tomorrow. Hoping I can catch up today.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Added bonus with not having to head out today is that bub has a bad case of the squirts, at the moment, filling his pants as fast as we can change them, it would not have been good to leave my darling with that for the day.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Just looked on the weather radar, looking soooo lovely. Lots of people getting much needed rain. Been so dry here the water trucks are running pretty much 24/7.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Just called 13health number to ask about bub because the diarrhea has increased and have to take him to the hospital asap 😩

Just precautionary but still, aghhhhh!!!!!!!!!!

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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Wishing you courage and strength to keep doing those hard yards @Determined .....

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