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Focussing on the positives-

DeterminedSenior Contributor29 May 2017, 6:12 am AEST

Focussing on the positives-

@Former-Member @soul @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 + everyone

I don't for a minute think that I am alone here but the last couple of weeks have been particularly difficult for our family with my darling quite unwell and going back into hospital for the third time in the last 6 months. I have not coped with this well at all, along with one of our children in particular, with additional unnecessary challenges added to the mix only making things worse. (The support here has been a significant help for that I am very grateful).

What I am aware of is that, while it helps to talk things through, far better to talk about things than to internalise them, it is very easy for me to get unnecessarily angry and bitter about our situation and dwell on things too much creating a downward spiral in my coping ability. It also affects my sleep.

To counter this I am making a commitment to find at least 1 positive thing that has happened and at least 1 thing to be grateful for each day and post it here. And if I can manage it, at least 1 thing that has made me laugh. (Posting it here as a form of accountability to make sure I actually do it 🙂

I had a glimmer of light on Saturday by consciously listng things to be grateful for but slipped back into the sulks on Sunday (no negatives in this thread so no explanation as to why here). So based on this I am making a commitment to consiously note these things each day.... please feel free to call me out if I dont 🙂 that woud be huge help 🙂

Something postiive that has happened today.
Something to be grateful for today.
If I can manage it- somthing that made me laugh today.

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soulSenior Contributor11 July 2017, 8:32 pm AEST

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I have pics of my kids in big shoes too. The joy of seeing them concentrate is priceless.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor15 July 2017, 9:33 pm AEST

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Something posative for today

We managed a family outing and bush walk. Found a hidden gem about an hour drive from home. Just googled for bush walks close by. Children had a fantastic time. Was a waterfall at the end of the walk that we were able to walk behind (will add some pics to shaz51 photo thread tomorrow if I remember). It was juat nice to be out as a family together with no preassure to be some where else.

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soulSenior Contributor16 July 2017, 6:39 am AEST

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Sounds lovely @Determined. So nice to visit new places and go exploring. Cherish these times whilst you can. When your kids are older, they might not be so keen to hang out or do things with you. I live with my daughter but hardly see her. We probably have dinner together three or four nights a week.

It's raining here now. I am feeling disappointed that I can't go out for the big walk I usually do each Sunday.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor16 July 2017, 1:06 pm AEST

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yesterday sounds like a lovely day to remember @Determined

will add some pics to shaz51 photo thread tomorrow if I remember).-- a little reminder my friend

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DeterminedSenior Contributor19 July 2017, 9:32 am AEST

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A while ago I made a commitment to finding a positive and something to be grateful for every day and if possible something that made me laugh.

I haven't been very successful so far so mostly because I am too tired to notice on a daily basis, there are plenty of positives I'm sure just not recognising them when on auto pilot.

Because I have seen definite benifits in focusing on the positives I have decided to try a more realistic goal of listing the positives at the end of every week at the end of every week and when somethig big happens throw that in as a bonus.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor19 July 2017, 5:13 pm AEST

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My painting is coming along ..... I need a major distraction from being at home but not wanting to be at home ...... so now with S2 not well, we are travelling much less, which is giving me time and space to paint.. I am not having to try to smoosh a painting into the space between flying interstate every five weeks or so, and overseas and back ..... with all the packing, unpacking, washing, etc that that involves.

Silver linings ......

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soulSenior Contributor19 July 2017, 5:51 pm AEST

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Or just do it when you think about it @Determined. It doesn't have to be so regimented. Let's face it - some days are just a write off. Makes us appreciate the good ones then.

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soulSenior Contributor19 July 2017, 5:52 pm AEST

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So nice that you have the ability and inclination to create something beautiful @Faith-and-Hope. Looking forward to seeing it if we are allowed.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor19 July 2017, 6:12 pm AEST

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My painting is a signature style @soul, so my oil paintings I have to keep offline, but the more experimental ones and acrylics I have been sharing on the art threads at times.

Art Class on C-Forum
Through Ones Eyes on LE-Forum

Also on Far & Away on LE-Forum ..... by they will be always back now ......

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor19 July 2017, 6:12 pm AEST

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** but they will be aways back now .....

@soul

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