DeterminedSenior Contributor
Diary of wifes hospital stay - holding it together for our family
Started a new thread here @soul rather than fill up the hot choc thread.
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Diary of wifes hospital stay - holding it together for our family
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
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On a positive note, pdoc is happy with how the treatment is going. Seeing positive results aparently.
Too bad it has come at the cost of her being cold and disconnected from me.
Practically ignored mum also this afternoon, thanks for driving determined and the boys down would have been lovely considering we would not have made it without her.
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soulSenior Contributor
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Oh @Determined - what mixed feelings you must have. Happy that your Darling and the kids are enjoying each other's company and that S2 had a nice birthday but really cut up by the lack of affection she has towards you.
Could she be blaming you for being in hospital and acting that way as a sort of passive aggressive response?
It must be heartbreaking all the same.
Could she be blaming you for being in hospital and acting that way as a sort of passive aggressive response?
It must be heartbreaking all the same.
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soulSenior Contributor
Re: Diary of wifes hospital stay - holding it together for our family
It's probably a good idea to have a break from visiting tomorrow. See how you feel before you make a decision about further trips to the hospital.
Seems like fatigue is winning and you need to get more rest than you currently are. Lack of sleep can put us in a mood of lessened tolerance and you don't want to be doing and saying things you might regret later.
For now, focus on the positives - you are keeping your family connected. It's still early days. I hope things get better for you.
Seems like fatigue is winning and you need to get more rest than you currently are. Lack of sleep can put us in a mood of lessened tolerance and you don't want to be doing and saying things you might regret later.
For now, focus on the positives - you are keeping your family connected. It's still early days. I hope things get better for you.
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
Re: Diary of wifes hospital stay - holding it together for our family
I feel the treatment has done somthing to her thinking @soul Really hoping it will pass when the treatment ends.
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
Re: Diary of wifes hospital stay - holding it together for our family
Dont know how I could possibly cope if it doesn't.
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soulSenior Contributor
Re: Diary of wifes hospital stay - holding it together for our family
Don't know much about the effects of that type of treatment @Determined but what I do know is that you are devoted to your Darling and no matter what you will reconnect with her. You have so much love in your heart, lots of patience and goodness.
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soulSenior Contributor
Re: Diary of wifes hospital stay - holding it together for our family
It's okay to feel frustrated, tired and a bit hopeless right now. These are hard times for you but you have been through them before. There will be happiness and joy and lots of love again @Determined
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
Re: Diary of wifes hospital stay - holding it together for our family
I think my little driving escapade this afternoon proves I need a break.
The plan was to drop mum off in town for sister to pick her up. She drove me all the way home and sister picker her up from here. didn't even trust my ability to get home from town in one piece. (In a loving caring way)
I dont know but I feel the rejection is affecting me more than the fatigue.
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soulSenior Contributor
Re: Diary of wifes hospital stay - holding it together for our family
It's understandable that the rejection you are feeling is affecting you in that way. You were taken aback yesterday by a perceived lack of warmth and then when you visit with the kids hoping for close and loving family time, you were faced with an aloofness that has worn you down. To say you were disappointed is an understatement.
Not wanting to visit again for a while in case you are met with the same reaction is something you have to decide. Skip tomorrow, see how you and your Darling feel, rest up a bit and take it from there.
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
Re: Diary of wifes hospital stay - holding it together for our family
Just got a reminder, have a councilling appointment on Thudsday so have to go down on Thursday unless I cancel again. Probably not a good idea.
Mum will have to come anyway to look after bub during my appointment.
Not looking forward to visiting again, really not 😣
