14th year house bound

Hi My angel,

A little trick i use, ear plugs, i jump at nooises too, i got some of those tradie ear plugs, they are foam and fit inside the ear, you can here people talking but it takes the loudness out of it.

Karen you will be fine, focus on some Mandala's tonight, try anything to distract yourself, the more you focus on it the worse it will get, once you are their it will go so fast. Just picture me standing beside you, you will be fine, if you need a break, go out side, take some time out, focus on the children, you seem to be more comfortable around them, you are going to be so busy with the make up.

Karen the girls are going to be in their own world, the excitment, the fun, they will be focused on the play too.

Karen i know exactly what is going through your head now, all the possabilities that could arise, i do it too, the what if's, listen to music, play with the girls, remember destraction for tonight.

i am good tonight, the dark cloud seems to have passed from over me, for now. i am so excited to here how the costumes go tomorrow, and the play. i am sitting here cheering you on.

i suppose the girls are getting the last of the practice in? make sure you get into it tonight too, have some fun, enjoy the good times.

Remember a sleeping bag and hot water bottle are always available.

Jacques

Thanks for understanding Jacques, and the idea. Shame I can't do anything about certain smells that trigger.

I spoke to a man on lifeline and he also suffers from ptsd and social anxiety, his suggestion to help being around people or while walking is to wear sunglasses. It's helps me because people can't see my eyes.

Unfortunately I can't wear them at night.

I will try and spend my time backstage with the children doing make up, hair, and costumes.

I really very scared

I'm so glad you are feeling better today

Karen

Headphones and sun glasses - both great ideas.

@hiddenite You mentioned a relaxing podcast to Jacques a little while ago - is that something that works for you? Maybe you could have ear phones in with some relaxing music to remove your conciousness from the noise. Would that be possibe?

When the moment comes when your little girl is on stage, everything else will fade away and there will only be here.

Enjoy the moment and celebrate the amazing mum you are; who got her up there (and her whole class dressed!!).

Karen you have your essential oils?, maybe put a little bit on your top lip, it will dilute other smells, worth a try?

i sometimes do it with eucalyptus, it works sometimes.

Yes try to spend most of your time back stage, but remember to go outside once in a while to get some fresh air, some alone time, i Know how scared you must be, i could not do what you are doing, i see so much strength in you, you are a wonderful mum and you will get through this, i will help you.

Hi cookmojo

Thanks for the suggestion. I use essential oils to try and help.

My triggers are cigarette smells, alcohol , men's deodorant, and some aftershave.

Then the worst is men , loud noises, and big groups of people.

Anyway thank you

Karen

Hi Jacques

Well the big day is here I am terrified.

It's freezing cold and raining so much some of the roads have been flooded.

I haven't managed to organise the break down of cheques that have to be organised through the bank and then driven over an hour away to the solicitor. What a mess.

I still haven't managed to get the electricity 're connected.

So overwhelmed

Hope you are ok

Karen

Hi My Angel,

My thoughts are with you, you can do it, just to put a smile on your face, guess what??????

"We're off to see the wizard, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz
We hear he is a whiz of a wiz, if ever a wiz there was
If ever, oh ever a wiz there was, The Wizard of Oz is one because
Because, because, because, because, because
Because of the wonderful things he does
We're off to see the wizard, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz"