14th year house bound

Hi Karen,

As I was reading your last post i was happy to read that you said that the health professionals have done you untold damage... because... it means that you do know that they are WRONG! And if you know that they are wrong you don't have to act by what they say or believe them.. because you already know they are wrong... they couldnt damage you if they were saying the right things! they are misguided judgements given by people who were not in your shoes, in your experiences, and can not possibly understand the choices that you had to make to survive. So hold tight to the knowledge that they are wrong and trust that you do know these things, and like Jacques has said, continue to look for and look at the resilience in your girls in the way that they are shining at school and in their creative persuits with you at home. They are growing up with love being given to them by you and your parents and their school in a safe place because you made that happen. There are still things that can get better (i.e. they shouldnt be hearing their mother put down by her parents!!) but things are so much better in their lives now because things have changed.. and will keep changing as you continue to grow and heal,

LJ

Yes My angel you said it "the system fails people" not you, you have done the best you could with what you had, please remember it is others telling you these things, i am sure deep down you know you did the best you could, and now the girls are safe, and so are you, whenever someone labels you, look at those girls and tell yourself, they are smart, wonderful, talented girls.

i know how others "labels" can influence us, i see myself as a fat lazy loser, who is too lazy to get a job, bludging off my mother, others have labled me as this and over the course of 10 years i now i believe it.

so Karen i understand how much others can hurt us, it is our challenge to see ourselves differently, see ourselves as worthwhile, see ourselves as successful when cucumstanses have been challenging.

i hope this talk we are having is not too upsetting, i just don't see in you what others have labeled you as. i am sure others on this forum feel the same.

Wow, those 2 girls are going to be so learned, you are giving them so much love, they are so lucky to have you, singing and colouring in, oh boy move over.

Karen you are a fantastic mum, those 2 girls are lucky to have you, as i said i live in a place where some kids have no home, they just wander the streets.

Karen it looks like you are not just my guardian angel you are the girls guadian angel too.

Enjoy the singing and colouring in, these are the times you will remember.

My kids jump into my bed every morning 🙂 my lil boy still wakes up every night with bad dreams and comes and gets in with me at some point every night too. I love our snuggle time in the morning, even when half the time i'd so love to actually be asleep lol!

lj

you guys are so lucky to have little ones to give you love and attention, please @Former-Member and @hiddenite remember this in the bad times, you still have some little people who love you

Ditto Jacques and LJ

And sharing your sharing with the girls helps our online community too. Thanks

I miss those times with my girls. We did a lot of those things.

Good Morning Karen,

I had a terrible night last night, could not sleep at all, i tossed and turned the whole night, i am so exhausted this morning, no walk today

i hope you are feeling better today, and you reflect on what a good job you have done with the girls, this should give you some pride and sense of worth, they are a reflection of you, what you have taught them and the skills you have given them in their short lifetimes.

I am sure they are going to grow up into confident, intelligent women.

i hope you have found a nice spot to spend the day. i am looking out over my desk into the garden, the birds, oh the damn birds are digging up my ground cover, aaaaaaah not again, oh well i am sure it will make some good nests for them.

Take care, my angel

Jacques