14th year house bound

Hi @hiddenite My Angel,

Yes i thought you would like it, something to make you smile. oh i am glad it is not me measuring, too frightened by the noise. i am sure they where a handful.

Karen, please listen the girls would be traumatised they are confused and the only blame you because they have no one else to blame. they are angry but it will pass, i am glad you are seeking help for them now instead of letting it turn into something worse later. the girls do not understand why and what happened so you can't expect them to be any different. just be their for them.

Karen it has nothing to do with if you where strong enough to leave or not. here is a scenario what if you had of left? took the kids and moved away? would he have allowed you to go? would he have harmed you and the girls? what if you called the police would the abuse have stopped? Karen you had no choice but to stay, he would have harmed you and the girls, i have seen what happens on the news to women like you whom are severely abused, it does not end well. you protected yourself and the girls as best you could under the circumstances.

i am sure when the girls get older and you let them in on a little more of what happened (if you do tell them) i am sure they will understand. at the moment they are just trying to proccess what they are feeling as best they can.

You are a beautiful, stong, intelligent woman whom got unlucky at the lottery of life, the past is gone, only the future matters. take care my angel

Jacques

@hiddeniteMy Angel,

That is exactly my point, you had no choice, and i am going to say it again and again until you believe it IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT he did this to you and the girls, not you, maybe this is the reason you need to go into a top private MHU to get proper treatment, to help you deal with the attrocities he did to you. He is gone now, you are safe, please tell yourself this, he can't hurt you or the girls now.

how are the flowers coming along? how did the dance moves go?

Karen i am here to listen any time, please feel free to confide in me, i will not betray your trust, you are special to me, and i only want you to be happy. i know it looks like a long way off, but you are getting their step by step.

A big hug

Jacques

I Know @hiddenite, My Angel,

i can never come close to how terrifying it must have been for you, but you need to take care of yourself so you can care for your daughters, it is a very tough situation you find yourself in, but you are not alone, i am here for you anytime, in time the memories become fuzzy, i know it has for me, i rememeber them but not as intence, memories are just that memories, they can't hurt you. i am sorry i am making things difficult for you, i was just trying to help.

Jacques

Karen i would like nothing more, yes a nice warm fire to let help with the past to drift away.

I so wish i could forget my past. i am like you trapped.

I wish their was a way for me to get rid of your hurt, your pain, i wish i could take it from you so you and the girls could be happy.

Oh Karen why do we get on so well? you never ask to much of me, you are my family, for family you do anything, you have given me something special, yourself, i was at a loss until you found me, i was even close to the end before you found me, i was at a loss as to why i should keep on going with the missery.

Then their you where, since then i have only thought about it a few times. so you see you are special to me, i wish i could give you a fraction of what you have done for me.