14th year house bound

Thanks Jacques I just wish she would show me some compassion, I'm doing my best, while struggling not only with my mental health but the girls as well.

The neighbor loved her cards, she is so kind to the girls even gives them birthday and Christmas presents.

I know I'll never please her but I keep trying to get her love and approval.I'll never learn.

I know KAren, you are going so far beyond what i could do, the care and love you show your girls is so inspiring, you put their health and wellbeing before your own, this just demonstrates how much of a good mother you are, and you are making a home on top of all that, it takes a lot of energy and courage to do what you are doing.

Karen you are doing a phenomminal job if you ask me, i am always so shocked at how you are coping and struggling through every day, i often feel ashamed complaining when you work so hard with the girls and the house. and struggle with your own daemons on top of all that.

OMG your neighbour sounds fantastic, it is good the girls have someone to show them not everyone is bad, that their are good people out their.

Karen of course you are always going to try, everyone wants to please their parents, i feel like a failure because i am not forfilling my parents dreams of my life, Karen, please don't stop trying, maybe one day she will show you that she does really care about you and love you. Karen i can tell you all the lovely words that i think you are, i really want you to believe these words about yourself, you are a wonderful mother, a good friend, a wonderful caring, kind strong person.

Well tomorrow is a new day. The sun will come up again the rooster will crow and the birds will chirp.Here's hoping for a better day.Jacques I'm going to bed I hope you will be ok. I'm thinking of you my friend.

Take care

Karen

Good night my angel,

you are right, i am still ow, but i will be ok, speak to you tomorrow, sleep well my angel. my thoughts are with you too.

Thank you so much for today, you are a great friend, and a kind and caring person. i am so lucky to have you in my life.

Good night

Jacques

Dear @hiddenite

I dont have @Jacques words so please bear with me. But it feels like your Mother likes to fight in words. So does my Mum.

What is good is that it's all good to focus on our mother's negativity. Personally, My mother has done something just awful to me in the past 2 weeks, it was almost psychic of her that she knew I was on medication changes...but......she will never change. This is her lot. We are changing.

Its easy to think about the negativity, its harder to focus on the positives. I think the best thing my mother gave me is a Passion to find different solutions, education in my children. Giving me sons the oppertunities I didnt get, even though I have MI they both do hear me.

My Mum Loves my brothers. she talks to them like they are humans.....ahh.....the joys of living in a paternalistic society.

She takes her hatred of herself on me. She has anger of herself.

I need to hold it and not act it out. She has given me a love of education, my wonderful sons were brought up the best I could because she taught me education she taught me to give them oppertunities in soul I was never given. I make many many mistakes. I sent an apology to one of their friends just yesterday. I dearly wish my son would take medication .........

Check out interview Gillian Mears on One Plus One its just wonderful on campassion, She needs the next prize on writing children's books and how to see the world and she has disability

Dear @hiddenite

I dont have @Jacques words so please bear with me. But it feels like your Mother likes to fight in words. So does my Mum.

What is good is that it's all good to focus on our mother's negativity. Personally, My mother has done something just awful to me in the past 2 weeks, it was almost psychic of her that she knew I was on med changes...but......she will never change. This is her lot.

You and me.... We are changing.

Its easy to think about the negativity, its harder to focus on the positives. This is the only way that change can happen though.

I think the best thing my mother gave me is a Passion to find different solutions, and I really really focused on education in my children. Giving me sons the oppertunities I didnt get, even though I have MI.

My Mum Loves my brothers. she talks to them like they are humans.....ahh.....the joys of living in a paternalistic society.

She takes her hatred of herself out on me. I reason this; before, her friends believed her negative talk of me but little by little.....they get to meet me.....Perth is a small place......she hates me but she loves me very much.... She has anger of herself.

I need to hold it and not act it out. She has given me a love of education, my wonderful sons were brought up the best I could because she taught me education she taught me to give them oppertunities in soul I was never given. I make many many mistakes. I sent an apology to one of their friends just yesterday. I dearly wish my son would take meds.

You are blossoming Karen.

So you could start up a piece of paper one side; what positives has your Mum given you and one side....what she does wrong. It keeps things in perspective.

Check out interview Gillian Mears on One Plus One its just wonderful on campassion, She needs the next prize on writing children's books and how to see the world and she has disability MS.

I was writing a reply when I needed to go and make dinner and do singing. Then I lost the post. So here I am again.

Dear @Jacques I hear your sensitivity and it is that quality and your ethics that makes you so conscientious. Do what you feel you have to do .. all human sharing beyond set manners and narrow interests ... is a risk .. I think you doubt your value ... but we do not ... sometimes it is hard to accept compliments and that is what our support was in a way. I dont want you to become too self conscious.

I would not exclude or gang up against another forumite. Often times it happens in life ... but I suspect a lot of us on the forum have been hurt that way and would refrain from doing that.

I am glad Karen has been walking closely with you on this.

@hiddenite I hope you can learn to build an interior castle protecting you from being hurt by anybody who doesnt appreciate your effort. hide a little clause in your heart that just flicks back unkind comments.

I let people know that my garden isnt a show piece .. its a place for me to play ... its a mess at the moment .. though I weeded and did repot some orchids and plant out a raspberry and other cuttings today.