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Not in a good place right now.

EllieSenior Contributor

Not in a good place right now.

I'm hesitant to post this because others actually have it far worse than I do, but as the subject suggests, I'm doing it tough right now. I feel abandoned by my mental health services. They say they can look after me for one or two nights if I feel really suicidal, but despite the threats, I've never tried all that hard to complete the act and I think they believe I'm just someone looking for attention and being manipulative.

Of course, even if I was feeling like that, they're only going to talk to me, maybe suggest a hot bath with something nice in the water or a good nights rest. The latter is half the problem. My head is just so busy with my own thoughts, racing, racing and with no solution to anything in sight.

I'm having a home visit from my community case manager on Friday and she's already told me it will be the last time I see her. They're going to close my file and she's going on an OS holiday for a month. I feel totally abandoned again!!

I no longer want to get out of bed. What's the point? I'm not eating and have dropped a heap of weight. I didn't have much to spare to begin with, but I don't care. I know to stay well we must eat well, but I'm sick of all this stuff.

Anyway, I really wanted to let you know what's going on in my world and so if you don't see me responding to posts, then it's not you. It's me!

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kristinSenior Contributor

Re: Not in a good place right now.

Hi @Ellie

You are most welcome. I hope things are better soon.

I am wondering if you could please post a link to that 2010 study on DBT efficacy for sufferers of BPD? I'd like to raise it at the council's health & wellbeing advisory group meeting next week (there are a couple of folk from the health dept, 1 senior, on it). That is assuming I am well enough myself to actually go! Which is another thing altogether.

Kind regards,

Kristin

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EllieSenior Contributor

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Strangely enough, I can no longer get access to it, but I'll write the link long hand and you might have better luck. It is as follows..............

www.heti.nsw.gov.au/Global/rural/.../pamela-stanford-final-report.pdf

The capital G in Global is correct. I think why I can no longer open it is because I'm currently using Adobe Digital Editions to read a DBT training manual. I'm seriously thinking of learning the techniques to teach DBT next year, but need to find out if I'd even be a suitable candidate to teach it being under the influence of the disorder myself.

Oh well, something else to look into next week to keep me busy

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kristinSenior Contributor

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Thanks @Ellie

I have it now. What a clunky website HETI have! I couldn't get it using the link, nor by searching the HETI site, and was about to try writing them an email when I decided to try a straight Google search with: her name, the words final report, DBT and NSW. Hey presto! And yes it is on the HETI site

So here it is for all who are interested.

Thanks again for your help. I love your passion for helping others and lobbying for more sensible preventative help in the midst of dealing with your own struggles. Good on you!

Take care of you please.

Hope for publicly funded DBT courses to be made available endures...

Kindest regards,

Kristin

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EllieSenior Contributor

Re: Not in a good place right now.

Ah good. Then it wasn't just me

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kristinSenior Contributor

Re: Not in a good place right now.

Definitely at least both of us, more likely the clunkiness of the website!

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor

Re: Not in a good place right now.

Dear Ellie,

I've emailed someone to get correct address for definition of bpd I've read, also thought online : by James Phillips : the Great Personality Bazaar on the web ( about Bpd ) looked like an okay read. What so you think ?

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kristinSenior Contributor

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Dear Anne,

I found the article - link here. But I think it is not particularly about BPD, it just uses BPD as an example. It seems to be about how totally useless (my word) the DSMV is for using in diagnosis of personality disorders.

Interesting reading though. And this is what we are supposed to be diagnosed accurately with? NOT.

Cheers, Kristin

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EllieSenior Contributor

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Hi Anne. I'm not familiar with "The Great Personality Bazaar" but have read the book "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me" which is standard recommended reading for those wishing to understand BPD especially carers and SO's. Another was written by the same psychs and is entitled "Sometimes I Act Crazy" and is a much revised book. I've fairly recently read both and can recommend them. I had a few light-bulb moments when reading them.

I'll check out "personality bazaar" and thanks for going to the trouble of tracking down that web address.

Lovely and sunny up my way. Hope wherever you all are, you getting a dose of the same. I can wait to get out in it later.

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor

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Yeah this isn't the article ..... I'm waiting for my former Psychotherapist to come back from holidays..... She wrote and said shelle be back in 10 days and she will send it to me again. It's a good read too.

I only read a little on that article I just like how it stated not to believe the DSM diagnosis.

The reason why my psychotherapist gave me the definition was that I was confused how BPD diagnosis is being thrown around and not the trauma of the diagnosis.

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor

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I show 'BPD,' traits when under considerable stress. A book that I bought......was 'understanding The Borderline Mother,' by Christine Ann Lawson. I found it very confronting and can only take little bits in at a time because it refers my own Mum.

I've thrown out most of my Patchotherapy books but since we are all readers maybe we should start a conversation merely about books ?

I've read two books that @kristin wrote about ..... Road Less Travelled by Peck and a wonderful Jungian book by Thomas that is about the soul ...... Love the book...... I'm too sleepy to remember name 'Care of the Soul ,' I think. She only wrote a couple of sentences but love what @kriatin wrote. I really like hearing about what other people think about papers and books
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