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Long Term caring and it's problems

JoJo99Senior Contributor

Long Term caring and it's problems

Hi everyone, I am hoping to get support and advice from other carers. I have been a carer since I was 10 for my mother, then my husband and also my daughter. My mum is 94 and now in a aged care home but relies only on me. My husband passed away. My daughter is 29 and has an intellectual disability, depression and anxiety.

It has all finally caught up with me and I am suffering from depression. I do not work. My daughter has been living out of home for two years and I am considering moving her back home because I don't seem to be able to look after myself, only someone else.

I really would love to hear from other long term carers to see if what I am going through has been experienced by others and they could offer me some advice.

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JoJo99Senior Contributor

Re: Long Term caring and it's problems

lol @Former-Member as I said I am the endless carer, it used to be people that were having trouble with life in between!! Now it's animals. Good grief I have a hard time doing anything for just me. "I must work on that!!"

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

Re: Long Term caring and it's problems

Hello @JoJo99

having your daughter move back in with her support people and her program , and have her own spot of the house to herself -- there is a topic tuesday where they talk about different subjects like -- Setting Bounderies which might be goo to have in place

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soulSenior Contributor

Re: Long Term caring and it's problems

@JoJo99 - Listen and follow your own advice - by working on doing something for yourself. Do you have things in mind that would fit the bill? Maybe a massage, a movie, a meal out?

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NikNikSenior Contributor

Re: Long Term caring and it's problems

Hi @JoJo99

I haven't really had a chat with you yet. I hope you're finding the Forums helpful 🙂
I noticed you used the first name in your previous post, of someone in your life.
You may be using a pseudonym, which is totally fine, but I just wanted to flag it. It's not a breach of guidelines, but it's more about looking out for your privacy.
If you want to edit your post, you can use the desktop version of the Forums to press the 'Edit' button within your post, to change it.

All the best.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

Re: Long Term caring and it's problems

Hello @NikNik, @JoJo99

@NikNik , trying to fine the topic tuesday about boundaries for @JoJo99

there is a topic tuesday where they talk about different subjects like -- Setting Bounderies which might be goo to have in place

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NikNikSenior Contributor

Re: Long Term caring and it's problems

Hi @Shaz51 & @JoJo99

Did you mean this Topic Tuesday @Shaz51 ?

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

Re: Long Term caring and it's problems

thank you @NikNik

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Unknown userMember

Re: Long Term caring and it's problems

@JoJo99 wrote:

@Former-Member Kirsty hasn't moved back yet ..... thats what I am worried about. Am I jumping from the frypan into the fire?

hello @JoJo99

so sorry I have misunderstood completely

you have split your house in 2 for your daughter to move back home with her own care sorted? Support workers?

this was decided between you both?

you now have concerns re daughter's depression? Is she still having counselling? If not is she entitled to more? If not go refer psychiatrist bulk bills?

what are your main fears? Dependence?

are you able to ask your new psychologist to assist in setting up workable plan for you and Kirsty giving you space? Perhaps apptment together to both discuss concerns. Kirsty may have similar concerns. I think once discussed openly how to move forward then issues will be revealed and can then be tackled.

how does any of this sound to you? Any help?

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Unknown userMember

Re: Long Term caring and it's problems

hello @JoJo99

@you need help with animals

do you have helpers?

delegate work for next couple of weeks you have major change happening

helpers can be told emergency

otherwise animals will have to go to nearest animal shelter

this is family emergency..... You can't be there for all, all of the time

time out for you to breathe and work out where to from here

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Unknown userMember

Re: Long Term caring and it's problems

Hello @JoJo99 @Faith-and-Hope

have you any different thoughts, suggestions Faith?

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