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i was abused by a male when i was younger and now im scared of males but at the same time i i still like them- hopefully that makes sense
but of recent ive started has some feelings for a female. it doesnt feel the same as what i do about males but i dont feel its love either.... gosh this is probably making no sense to anyone- its confusing me too but hopefully some one can give me some advice on how to decifer this ive always been drawn to females though- maybe its a comfort thing...?
yes i find it quite good that ive found a new interest, something i never thought id even try, ive always been ill look from behind the fence thanks
thank you everyone for helping me through discovering myself ") @Shaz51@Former-Member@CheerBear@utopia@Mazarita
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
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You're welcome, @unknown, glad this discussion has been helpful. Good to have you on the forum with us now too.
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unknownSenior Contributor
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thank you @Mazarita
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unknownSenior Contributor
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hi everyone thank you for helping me work out abit about myself. i think im satisified and quite happy to call myself bisexual then im free to like whoever i want to and not fight my feelings but rather accept them for what they are 🙂
@Mazarita@utopia@CheerBear@Former-Member@Shaz51
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Unknown userMember
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I think that that is great @unknown - self acceptance and confidence are shining out 🙂
If you want to, please feel free to join in discussions around the forums, you're more than welcome!
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unknownSenior Contributor
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yeah its pretty good this self discovery thing @Former-Member
ive commented on a few threads and im making some new friends which is great too 🙂
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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That sounds like a really great place to have arrived at @unknown🙂 I haven't read through the replies properly yet but am about to go back through now I have some quiet here. Not sure if it would be helpful to answer your questions now but happy to keep chatting if you'd like.
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unknownSenior Contributor
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umm you can answer them if you like i love to get different perspectives but thats up to you 🙂@CheerBear i dont really have any other questions that i can kinda think of at the moment
id love to get to know you abit more though if you are happy to share abit more information and im happy to tell you abit more about myself as well
but im going to head off now and watch a movie or two and head to bed. im going to catch up with my friend tomorrow and help her with her horses again 🙂
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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@unknown. I'm happy you are feeling more comfortable about being attracted to both sexes. I have always been attracted to both. But I've only had sexual relationships with males. Purely because there has not been a woman that I could connect with fully. I don't see myself as heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual. I see myself as a human being who is open to love & a caring relationship, regardless of gender. Quite often character traits I find attractive in others, are areas I am looking at improving in myself. So for me, it's important to sort out what my attraction is to another person. Is it purely physical. Or am I attracted to a persons confidence or strength. Or is it their core valuea.
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unknownSenior Contributor
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thank you @utopia yeah i think its good to be attracted to both sexes as well 🙂
ive only had one or two male relationships but i ahvent really been interested in dating as much. im happy to just have my friends and chill with them and today im learning some more about horses with my friend, we are going to take them for a walk, she said she might ride as well and i can have a go but i dont think im ready for that but id love to watch her ride so i dont mind 🙂
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