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outlanderSenior Contributor
hi @Mazarita @Owlunar @Former-Member @Adge @Spookytookims @CheerBear @Former-Member @Shaz51
i was lil-caterpillar
im back..... i think.....
im just treading very very lightly at the moment
but id like to let you know that i have read what you wrote on my other threads and i appreciate your kind words and for thinking of me even after i left here 
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
Hi @outlander
I am feeling okay today - much better than on Monday - and I am up a bit earlier than usual as well - and having my brekky at the computer and not in bed - the cat is still in bed - I guess she is asleep and hasn't noticed that I am up
You will feel unwell while that infection is clearing up - that is your body doing hard work - I had an infection in my nose last year and I was sick for days - I was on antibiotics and I had ointment for the sore - and the doctor told me that when the body is healing itself and the antibiotics are working people feel unwell - I guess it's the same for this infection you have atm - your body is on full-alert recovering
What did I say about my cat? Actually I didn't say a word but she is up and sitting in the sun near the front door - I swear that cat can read my mind
What time are you going to the doctor
And you are a sweet and kind person to care for everyone in your household as you do - I know you cared for your Nan and now your Pop but your mum seems to expect it - you care about your sisters too and they can be nasty - you are the better person
I had it with my mother and sister - now I don't have to worry - my sister can manage her own life without me and the less I see her the better - but I know that I care/d about both of them even though I keep and kept away - it is the better way
But I do have you in my thoughts and with you the best today
Dec
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
Ah - so - you are waiting at your clinic - I hope there is not a crowd of men around you as there were the other day - I can understand that freaking you out
About my mother - she died over two years ago now - but I never got on with her and she snarled at me when I visited her when she was in care - so I didn't visit - I could not see the point and I would end up crying my eyes out in the taxi going home and that was not a good thing to do
So I gave up - but not because I was nasty - but because in the end we all have to care for ourselves
But I saw her just before she died and she was full of regret - so sorry for her - but I could not help her - only forgive her - which for me was easy - who wants to carry someone else bundle of whatever-it-is around with us
Being the better person means giving the other person space to be themselves - I can promise you that in the future your mother is mostly likely going to regret the way she treats you - and it is being the better person - hard perhaps - but better. We can grow into who we would rather be
Dec
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