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Son (22) with schizophrenia

Son (22) with schizophrenia

Living with someone who suffers from schizophrenia is very difficult. Even medicated it seems he lives in a different world and stares a lot whilst smoking cigarettes like a steam train.
Sleeps during the day, spooks around at night.
Any advice about healthy diet, less coffee and smokes, is ignored.
He will never live a productive life.
We've lost family members close to us on the way because of his behaviour and them not understanding mental illness.
Ofcourse I worry about our future.
I need to be single as no other man can live with us.
I need to work full time to provide a roof over our heads and pay the bills. Without me, he'll be homeless, jobless and suicidal as his paranoia would kick in, specially when he thinks the meds are only given to him as he is a guinea pig and 'they' are trying to change his DNA...
I've always wanted children but no one never told me how tough it would be if a mental illness strikes the 'Brady bunch' family image with a thunderbolt.
A medal to anyone who cares for someone suffering mental illness.
They need all the help and support they can get. They deserve better too. Mental illness you don't see from the outside, my son looks like a healthy good looking young man but has no future. Maybe with support and someone pushing him out of his shell but some have tried and given up.
I have given up a marriage and another 7 years old relationship and noe bought a small unit to care for my son, indefinite. We have no other family here as Migrated here in 1987.

My love for my son is very deep and I am so proud of him he went to hospital last year and still takes his depot shot every month. However, I feel anxious and worry all the time. He has applied for DSP (disability pension) but he tells me if he gets rejected, and 'they' want him to work, he will stop the depot needle. It takes his motivation and energy away, He knows he can't work 8-5pm, neither with or without meds.
My good sense of humour is slowly fading but where there's life, there's hope, right?
Thanks for reading my story.

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Re: Son (22) with schizophrenia

Thank you @Former-Member. It's been a quiet day. Son told me he'll wish me a happy father's day "soon". I thought he'd forgotten but he's just waiting for the right moment. So far (5pm) the moment is yet to arrive.

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Re: Son (22) with schizophrenia

@patientpatient

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Re: Son (22) with schizophrenia

oh so glad that lovely @Former-Member thought of you

has brought tears to my eyes.....you are all in the back of my mind somewhere just very cloudy in there laugh

bless him for saying that he will wish you happy father's day soon

I just touched the photograph of my son on the fridge and now the tears are flowing

bless you all xx

In response to: Son (22) with schizophrenia

Re: Son (22) with schizophrenia

Are you back @Grasshopper3?

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Re: Son (22) with schizophrenia

@Grasshopper3

Are you here with us?

if you are no pressure....won't bombard you with questions

just hello...hope that you are safe

sending you warmhearted wishes

In response to: Son (22) with schizophrenia

Re: Son (22) with schizophrenia

@patientpatient
Checking in to see how you are going.
Darcy

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Re: Son (22) with schizophrenia

Hello @patientpatient

I came here to see how you were and found the lovely @Former-Member already looking after you...

are the challenges lessening in strength?

How are you?

I have reached out for your guidance before and am still so very grateful for the time you took to respond..

This can be such a difficult time of year for so many of us...I want family connection yet struggle so much leading up to the moment...

I hope that there are some special moments coming up for you....with your son as well as for you as a person as well as a father..

here if you want to talk..vent..rave...or even tell jokes... @Former-Member So very good at that..

would be lovely to hear how you both are...

no pressure to respond..

as always take care

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Re: Son (22) with schizophrenia

Thanks @Former-Member and hello to @Former-Member. Doing OK here. Son has started P/T work for a few hours a week. Tentative steps in the right direction and he's got much better support this time. Quiet Christmas coming up, which is how we like it. Thanks for the message. I've been reading your posts and sorry to hear that times are difficult. Not too sure how to respond since I tend to be practical, and am pathetic at being empathetic. If you're on holidays, switching off the phone for a few days could be a good idea.... you can have some "me" time.

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Re: Son (22) with schizophrenia

hello @patientpatient

thank you for replying so soon....

wonderful news re your son starting part time work...his medication adaption helping with more motivation and a little more energy?

yes tentative steps and more support so very important..

even though my own son has sent such hurtful messages and not yet receding any medical help...I think that his attempts at leading a very healthy lifestyle are being thwarted by his delusional paranoia...

despite that hearing such progress for both your son and self warms my heart...

the more positive stories....bring me hope..

ps no need to compare writing styles with others...

practical responses more than welcome..

have you something in mind for yourself during part of the time son working? Release for some of pent up feelings...punching bag with boxing gloves? Rafting the Rapids?

Anything that you enjoy really.. Basically to have time to yourself to think...to switch off alert buttons..

even findind a peaceful spot..doing nothing...just unwinding...without feeling guilty..

take care..

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Re: Son (22) with schizophrenia

Hey @patientpatient
Great news re: son's work
Hope you can get time out for yourself while he is at work - gently recommend you prioritise it.
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