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Son (22) with schizophrenia

Son (22) with schizophrenia

Living with someone who suffers from schizophrenia is very difficult. Even medicated it seems he lives in a different world and stares a lot whilst smoking cigarettes like a steam train.
Sleeps during the day, spooks around at night.
Any advice about healthy diet, less coffee and smokes, is ignored.
He will never live a productive life.
We've lost family members close to us on the way because of his behaviour and them not understanding mental illness.
Ofcourse I worry about our future.
I need to be single as no other man can live with us.
I need to work full time to provide a roof over our heads and pay the bills. Without me, he'll be homeless, jobless and suicidal as his paranoia would kick in, specially when he thinks the meds are only given to him as he is a guinea pig and 'they' are trying to change his DNA...
I've always wanted children but no one never told me how tough it would be if a mental illness strikes the 'Brady bunch' family image with a thunderbolt.
A medal to anyone who cares for someone suffering mental illness.
They need all the help and support they can get. They deserve better too. Mental illness you don't see from the outside, my son looks like a healthy good looking young man but has no future. Maybe with support and someone pushing him out of his shell but some have tried and given up.
I have given up a marriage and another 7 years old relationship and noe bought a small unit to care for my son, indefinite. We have no other family here as Migrated here in 1987.

My love for my son is very deep and I am so proud of him he went to hospital last year and still takes his depot shot every month. However, I feel anxious and worry all the time. He has applied for DSP (disability pension) but he tells me if he gets rejected, and 'they' want him to work, he will stop the depot needle. It takes his motivation and energy away, He knows he can't work 8-5pm, neither with or without meds.
My good sense of humour is slowly fading but where there's life, there's hope, right?
Thanks for reading my story.

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@Former-Member
yes we have West Australia Day tomorrow.... lucky us 🙂

would the old hot water bottle help your back? or some sort of heat pack?

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'... means that I feel for you (wishing I had words of comfort)' (@Darcy)

Ok so what I wrote leaves you speechless.
Thanks for clearing that up.
Didn't realise it had such an impact on my readers, .... thank you

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Re: Son (22) with schizophrenia

Are you doing anything special tomorrow @Grasshopper3? Did you go away, I can't recall lol Do have fun 🙂

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@Former-Member

no, nowhere nights getting too cold to go camping here. today we bought locks for our suitcases as my son doesnt want anyone to plant drugs in them at the airports luggage handling area.

went for two walks again today xx

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Wishing you a safe journeyxxxxx

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Re: Son (22) with schizophrenia

Hi @Former-Member, stranger ☺🌷🌿

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Re: Son (22) with schizophrenia

Hi @Marit

Here you will find others who care for those with Sz which goes by its code name "Colgate" here, meet @Grasshopper3 who started this thread @patientpatient who lives with his son @Former-Member whose son moved interstate but contacts her @Former-Member who has a brother that she supports from a distance and my husband whose diagnosis is unclear but late onset Sz is in the hypothesis mix.

Darcy

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My Bro (sz) just hit mum and dad up for rego again but can still afford dope & cigarettes, its so hard to hold my tongue. Guess its harder for them to give up such addictions (learned that here on the forums), getting angry never helped anyone I guess 😞

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@Former-Member

My Bro (sz) just hit mum and dad up for rego again but can still afford dope & cigarettes, its so hard to hold my tongue. Guess its harder for them to give up such addictions (learned that here on the forums), getting angry never helped anyone I guess

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I hear you Lapses, the irratic spending frustrates me too. My son spends most of his allowance on smokes ($55 a pouch of tobacco!) just like his dad used to.

I remember the days when we were married, part of his controlling and selfish behaviour was to cut me off from finance. There was little money for groceries, had to beg for money to buy the kids shoes, whilst dad was drinking bourbons and smoking like a chimnee....

Anyway, talking about rego, my son is very close to getting his drivers licence, he passed his driving test and all he needs to do is a computer test now. He doesnt see the need tho. He doesnt want his own car either.

His dad didnt pay rego's either, so I'm not pushing it otherwise it falls back on me, like your parents are paying rego for your brother. That, together with insurance, petrol, stress in traffic, accidents.... no!

The less responsibilities he has, the better he copes.

I showed him how to set up automatic debit to pay board, so he is not worried to remember it every fortnight.

xx

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@Marit, @Former-Member

Welcome to my Colgate story Marit.

Wishing you well and will read your story when back from work 🙂

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