Recognition for the work that carers do

Hi Darcy,

Sorry I've been a bit AWOL. I'm working at limiting my time in Forum Land a bit and I never seem to get around to all the threads that I want to! I have just started another marking gig, so that is going to consume my time and energy for the next few weeks. Violin is going super well, and I had my first ever private yoga lesson this morning which you can read about if you venture over to the great yoga adventure.

I have no issues at all hearing you talk about carer stuff. I love the fact that Mr Darcy has you advocating for him and I love that you know first-hand how dysfunctional the system is (not to mention how extra super scary it is for those of us that have no family or friends to advocate for us).

A big part of my muddle is that I don't fit in aspie world anymore than I fit in mental health world. Here people super get the trauma stuff but not the aspie stuff, there they get the aspie stuff but not the trauma stuff.

I have zero interest in meeting people for the sake of meeting people. It isn't the meeting part that is the issue, it's the getting-them-to-stick-around-after-they-get-to-know-me part that is the reason for my social isolation. The nature of my muddle makes interpersonal relationships very tricky.

Thanks for holding out hope. I am really struggling at the moment. There is a lot of my muddle that I don't share here in Forum Land and realistically, the chances of me finding someone who can help me with it, who is also willing and able to work with me long-term, and who I can afford, are very very small. So...holding out hope that I will find someone is probably akin to holding out hope that you might win a million dollars at lotto if you played every week - not impossible, but so unrealistic you don't exactly plan your life around it happening.

Super big thank you for caring about me. Yes, I did not cope well at all with the absence of a moderator at Friday Feast (the reasons for that relate to some of the muddle that I choose not to share in Forum Land). I fully intend to be at FF this week.

I hope you and Mr Darcy are going ok at the moment.

Hey @Phoenix_Rising

Will certainly hover over the yogi bear thread to find out about your private lesson and would be more than amenable to listening to your latest violin piece on you tube. I do hope that you are enjoying the marking and that you find the assignments interesting.

Hear what you are saying about feeling as though you don't fully belong in either MH or Aspie camps and hear what you are saying about meeting people and yes there are many things that are best left out of forum land.

Count down on for Mr Darcy's surgery (next week), he is not coping very well at all - not only because of the pain but the aetiology behind it. I am nervous that one of the two drugs he is on has to be tapered down pre-op, to be restarted post anaesthetic - something I will need to keep an eye on. I am hoping that once hip replacement is in situ and acute pain dispensed with that he will be able to continue with recovery from his acute episode and that relapse can be averted, time will tell.

I did get a leaflet about conciliation in the paperwork about my complaint so have been looking up stuff on mediation and have started preparation, can only do so much as I need to see what response I get. Really glad I have done this as it has given me some clarity, whether or not it will be enough to effect change remains to be seen.

Darcy