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@CherryBomb, @Former-Member or any other @Former-Member floating around Forum Land, will you ride a wave with me? I thought I would be fine doing something...but it turns out that the something has made my big feelings BIG and now I'm in a pickle...and there's nothing worse than a pickled turtle! I'm going to go and snuggle in my bed so I probably won't actually respond to you, but it will still super help me to know that I am not utterly alone on the wave. I don't want to tag anyone else because I don't want anyone to feel they need to respond. Thank you in advance for riding with me.
I'm scared @CheerBear and @Zoe7. The huge waves are huge. I really do super like you guys...but is it really enough to keep living for? You are anonymous strangers. I don't even know your names. I'm so confused. I really really really need to just talk it through. I so very VERY badly need to talk it through. @Former-Member super giant please can I call?
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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You know how much I love and adore F&H @Phoenix_Rising - and I am not going to say the same to you so don't worry about getting hit on the head with any lovehearts here - but last week when I was choosing to end it myself it was not just her that stopped me going 'the whole way'. I also though alot about you and not wanting to be another person in your life that left also. In amongst all that pain and despair - you were still in my head lol - and I wouldn't have it any other way
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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@Former-Member????
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Phoenix_RisingSenior Contributor
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@CheerBear I have never wanted you here more than I do right now!!!!! I want you here SO MUCH!!!!
@Zoe7 Even though I don't love you and I generally don't worry about you, I was concerned last week when you disappeared after our other muddle.
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Bpd_SydCasual Contributor
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Hi @Pheonix_Rising, I know I am only a newbie on here but what helps me to gain a little bit of perspective when life starts to get a little too chaotic is just putting on some nice mindfullness meditation sounds from youtube or somewhere and practicing some deep breathing etc. It really helps me for sure. Living in Sydney with 4 kids under 10yrs takes the cake some days but I too have my moments when I feel I am absolutely flipping out.
Hope that helps 🙂
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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Do you want to hear something really funny @Phoenix_Rising (well I think it is funny anyway) - if I ever hear the name Zoe being said I turn around too lol
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Phoenix_RisingSenior Contributor
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How long has this wave been going for? It feels like hours. I so very very VERY badly need to talk it through. I know what I need. I'm using my "I need..." statement. I am trying my super hardest. Why doesn't this help seeking thing that we all go on about work for me????
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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Our other muddle came right in the middle of an even bigger muddle and then and EVEN BIGGER muddle happened @Phoenix_Rising - I really did not want to stay!
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Unknown userMember
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@Phoenix_Rising, gigantic category 5 storms are super horrible, but let me be very clear … you are NOT causing Forum Land chaos.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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I don't know if it is enough @Phoenix_Rising and as much as it hurts me to say it big time, I respect that it maybe isn't enough. And I am taking a huge giant breath in posting that, like I imagine maybe you did when you said a similar thing once many mornings ago in the tiny hours. I respect that this is your life and this is your choice.
You have given meaning to my muddle that I did not expect to have, and I think you know what selfishly I am hoping your answer to that question is tonight. You are my best not-friend on the whole entire planet, and right now I wish more than ever I was there.
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