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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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It is the upcoming anniversary of my Pop's death which I was reminded of by the anniversary of a death for someone else. It has brought back alot of memories and grief.
Combining that with some other stuff in 'the real world' - I haven't known what to do or where to go. It really felt like I was on my own and really alone again. I haven't coped with any of it at all well.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
I think I have worked it out anyway - hate being 'switched on' sometimes - know too much and take too much on board 
Sounds like you have a lot still to do - and you might have to sleep on the floor tonight lol - what time is your appointment? @utopia
You asked about my Pop before. It is really hard knowing the 20th anniverary is coming up. I found him and tried to revive him. My uncle turned up just after the ambulance and I told him and then just left -always felt guilty that I just left him to deal with it on his own. I then had to drive afterwards to tell my mum first (was her dad) and then take her to where dad was working to tell him and pick him up - then ring my sister and tell her.
The clincher for me was when someone said they were glad it was me who found him because I was the strongest one in the family and the one who could deal with it. ...but how do you deal with finding someone like that - I'm sure I cracked or broke a rib trying to revive him too. I knew he was gone and there was no point but I didn't stop until the ambulance got there.I can remember every little detail of that morning.
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Sweet dreams @utopia Thankyou for tonight - it really has been a huge help 
Lots of love and huge hugs to you my beautiful friend 
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Just like everything else @utopia - I don't!!!!
Goodnight my friend - get some sleep and goodluck tomorrow
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
@Former-Member I have never felt you have 'crossed a line' with me so there is absolutely nothing to be sorry about here
I feel guilty about leaving my uncle alone with the paramedicsand police but I wasn't 'fleeing' - I had to go and tell my mum. My first response was to get to her and tell her before anyone else could. I can still see so clearly what she was wearing, how I told her to sit down and then telling her. It had been exactly 4 months to the day that her mum (my nan) had passed away and it was all too much of a shock to everyone.
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