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Depressed with my situation, later 50s

mrmistaSenior Contributor

Depressed with my situation, later 50s

Hi there people thx for having me. 1st post so l this is an ok place for depression as l couldn't find a depression section.

lt seems to me crazy especially at this stage but l'm just so damn stuck about my situation and just can not seem to be able to come up with a decision on what to do with it.

l didn't do well getting rid of my house but l did still also have a block of land in a small town. My ex and l bought it yrs back it was just suppose to be an investment but now because of the way things went with my house, it's looking like the best solution from here would be to just build something on the block. There's no debt on the block at all now and l do have small savings left that l could build a simple house with so financially it'd be ideal as l'd have no debt or mortgage.

Problem is a few things.

1stly, although l moved to regional area awhile back now, l grew up in the city but the town here at the block is tiny, no shops just a pub. Nearest decent town is 45k away.

The block does have a small cabin on it and l;ve been staying 6mths now supposedly figuring out whether l wanna build on it of not.

lt is a pretty block and spot and l'd have no debt if l just stayed here, where as not only don't l feel up to moving any more but l can't afford to now or to take on a new mortgage either after the house loss but somewhere better would be much much dearer and there'd be no way without one.

Trouble is, the town depresses the hell out of me especially at night every night l just sink again even if the day hasn't been too bad, sometimes even quite nice. Night comes round and down l go.

lt's just so damn small and away and at night there's just nothing except house lights on, that's it.

l mean if l had a choice l wouldn't choice to settle here never bought it back when for that at all, it's just the best solution though all round for sure. All round except that l just get so damn depressed out here.

So 6mths and l'm still absolutely nowhere about building something so l'm still just in the little cabin. Trouble with just doing it is, that if this went on and l just hated it here, l might not even be able to sell it and get my money back anyway and it still leaves the same problems above, with going somewhere better anyway.

lt's mad but l don't think l've ever been so stuck in my life.

Best to all.

mr

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TABSenior Contributor

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run sounds off battery @mrmista i have old target tv that uses 12v . car stereos do too lol

yeah , technically I have a job. not been to work in weeks

1 week off turned into 3 with school holidays and interviews for other positions.

They owe me $2k still not got it .

am in HR system and signed contract tho, so its a waiting game. next work after 12 Oct ie after school holidays.

i 'shadowed ' classes ie helped out where I could . they would up the ante as well after a while.

so do a few days over 2 weeks gratis then 6 days they say paying me for.

out of pocket thousands for fuel and accom. was scary/exciting etc. couyld barely walk by end of day ,going on willpower alone , did more steps a day then been doing in a month lol

but yeah its brilliant job and likely end up 30 min commute as opposed to driving 2 hours to city. last I heard they were talking about 'another contract' and gett ting me free accom to do a bit more in the city before sending me back to country near home.

so yeah. @Appleblossom 

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mrmistaSenior Contributor

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@TAB

Oh shit yeah, 240 everything. l can't run bigger things here at the cabin bc it's still only a tiny system , now as l'm staying gonna build on that one. But oh yeah, stereo, tv, small fridge, charge pc, phs and all my power tools, other stuff. It'll boil kettles to but seems l have a gas cooker l just have a kettle on that for now. Back at my house though , ran everything, whole house was completely disconnected from the lines outside. Use to love seeing their suck upto me lettters trying to con me into reconnecting.

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mrmistaSenior Contributor

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@TAB

Don't run any 12v stuff myself except lights , they run straight from battery. The inverter converts the battery into 240v and just plugs into the cabin and everything inside just plugs into normal 240 power points.

Love solar, why anyone pays all this money for power while getting screwed over for the privilege, when it's all just free, same with water, is beyond me.

Gees mate though, bit crook out laying all that money on costs for work but l spose you do have to get there first l guess but shit yeah could sure get that being a bit scary. Spose they'll cough up though eh and in the long run when you get your commute setup going you'll be getting ahead.

My sister does something like that sounds too.

When l first started my business way back in the day, l had like 3-4k in the bank, that was it. And l had to spend 5 or 6k on job materials, just to work and then get paid for the job, know how you feel. The first few jobs l was very nervous , in the red the whole time, but then finally started inching ahead and then making money.

Sounds like something you like though eh, that;s a big thing at this age so isn't it so glory to ya man l say, especially if you can end up locally later on.

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TABSenior Contributor

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ok..

week 1

  • 1 day so $140 accom and had medical appt next day so got like $130 for fuel
  • week 2
  • 2 nites $240ish plus like $100 fuel
  • weeks3 &4
  • 3 nites for both weeks so around $660
  • 2 lots fuel $200. so about $1500with clothes bought plus food etc.

but the reward .. No comparison .

plus I'll push limits on tax deductions next year lol

@mrmista 

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TABSenior Contributor

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yes , so not so scary for me being out of pocket, ust having a moan

business dift. kettle of fish

@mrmista 

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mrmistaSenior Contributor

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Yeah figured l mean they;ll cough up l spose all the red tape to start that they love so much has to get sorted is all l'd guess eh.Still , bit not nice having to actually pay yourself in advance just to get started type thing hey but eh as you say , the reward so. Sounds great in the long run man congrats with all that.

But yeah batteries, man , so many new batteries coming onto the market. Bit of a shame really bc l'll need to build my new system soon but in even 12mths, typical batteries out right this day will be obsolete when the new tech starts hitting, very close. l'll try to just go up enough to get buy until then rather than all out and then kinda got a second use in mind later for my old setup so it doesn't go to waste, meanwhile see what all the new stuff coming can do.

Either that or just build my new one now with what's out there now and just run that 15yrs and to hell with all the new shiny stuff. l'll decide later.Ha, and in 15yrs, all the new tech coming out any day now will be also obsolete by then. l said to someone 20yrs ago, one day solar will be the size of a cigarette pack, few yrs to that yet but it's on it's way.

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TABSenior Contributor

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..okay not to mention day was about to leave and got uber paranoid about noise car made reversing out of drive. took it to garage they dropped everything, got one dude driving , another listening. was big hunk of hard plastic . once they saw it kn!fe out in a flash cut it in an instant. I felt silly cos knew thing was hanging down but couldnt image that was all noise was. sounded like car falling apart.

anyhoo , all fine since, def fixed problem @mrmista then bums trying to tune me in pub carpark etc hey alls well that ends well lol

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TABSenior Contributor

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..so I said def coming here to get car serviced next time . ha ha yeah with my oil and filter lol got half a room full of half price specials lol ok guess not thats rude . went there a while back got some old dude he couldnt fixwarning thing telling me to service car. and beeping thats the worst. rang them 5 mins after picked up.not fixed. Oh but I did wat sposed to do .. like, yeah,and ? had a few more goes myself and after reading and re-reading stuff decided to get another oil pressure sensor even tho that was not fault shown and ok no fault on plug in reader. so yeah after a few cycles and removing battery and reconnecting its fixed ha ha not told them yet like they care @mrmista 

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