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Depressed with my situation, later 50s

mrmistaSenior Contributor04 Apr 2026, 7:43 pm AEDT

Depressed with my situation, later 50s

Hi there people thx for having me. 1st post so l this is an ok place for depression as l couldn't find a depression section.

lt seems to me crazy especially at this stage but l'm just so damn stuck about my situation and just can not seem to be able to come up with a decision on what to do with it.

l didn't do well getting rid of my house but l did still also have a block of land in a small town. My ex and l bought it yrs back it was just suppose to be an investment but now because of the way things went with my house, it's looking like the best solution from here would be to just build something on the block. There's no debt on the block at all now and l do have small savings left that l could build a simple house with so financially it'd be ideal as l'd have no debt or mortgage.

Problem is a few things.

1stly, although l moved to regional area awhile back now, l grew up in the city but the town here at the block is tiny, no shops just a pub. Nearest decent town is 45k away.

The block does have a small cabin on it and l;ve been staying 6mths now supposedly figuring out whether l wanna build on it of not.

lt is a pretty block and spot and l'd have no debt if l just stayed here, where as not only don't l feel up to moving any more but l can't afford to now or to take on a new mortgage either after the house loss but somewhere better would be much much dearer and there'd be no way without one.

Trouble is, the town depresses the hell out of me especially at night every night l just sink again even if the day hasn't been too bad, sometimes even quite nice. Night comes round and down l go.

lt's just so damn small and away and at night there's just nothing except house lights on, that's it.

l mean if l had a choice l wouldn't choice to settle here never bought it back when for that at all, it's just the best solution though all round for sure. All round except that l just get so damn depressed out here.

So 6mths and l'm still absolutely nowhere about building something so l'm still just in the little cabin. Trouble with just doing it is, that if this went on and l just hated it here, l might not even be able to sell it and get my money back anyway and it still leaves the same problems above, with going somewhere better anyway.

lt's mad but l don't think l've ever been so stuck in my life.

Best to all.

mr

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mrmistaSenior Contributor29 Sept 2026, 4:07 pm AEST

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Gday Tabman , thx for that been wondering how you've been going and nice to hear from you to mate. How lucky are you man, good for you eh, bloody nice stuff.

And l know what you mean with all the housing horror stories out there these days , you are mate and so am l l've realized .

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor29 Sept 2026, 5:42 pm AEST

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Hey @mrmista

Sounds like you have done a lot of work already and pland for home improvements can be great goals. My place could do with a reno... wanna do some work here,,,lol,,,joking. I cant complain. I have a roof over my head and essentials etcetc. Had a flood this morning with changeover of washing machine, but all sorted now. Not too bad, and catching up on the washing that accumulated. Weather here has been pretty good. Birdsong.

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mrmistaSenior Contributor29 Sept 2026, 5:55 pm AEST

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@Appleblossom

Hey Apple , haaa , sounds like your on top of things eh, nice. Yep made progress here, almost ready for sheeting and roofing, can't wait to have a washing machine again though, among other comforts. lt's stored in the shed atm , but when l finish the extra plus the solar, l'll be able to wash clothes again, really looking forward to that one. Quite nice here to last few wks, some days pretty warm, thk the Gods winters pretty well done all l can say.

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor29 Sept 2026, 6:20 pm AEST

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@mrmista Yep. Spring is my favourite season. Just had a meat pie plus lamb & vegie soup. Need to keep focussing on the good stuff. Day by day....lol

I remember people building in the old days... sheds, lean tos, A frames....when I was a dippy hippy. My grandfather built a house with his boys. I am lucky I didn't have to do that. Just reovating. Solar can be good. I got it at least 10 years ago. They have reduced the tariff rates...so its not as good as it was... not sure... are you off the grid? Tank water?

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TABSenior Contributor29 Sept 2026, 6:35 pm AEST

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oh I am in contact with someone inPerth who thinks its normal to have 3br house on around min. wage in retail. they are on dole now first time in life in 50s which pays rent, no money for anything else . I send them money, but really think they would be better off getting rid of house but too snooty for caravan park still @mrmista @Appleblossom

oh, re being Lucky .. Ive got work at Tafe. You should go away more often jk lol no set hours etc yet but casual contract so far. Talk of another contract. I did an interview for full time position they sort of cornered me into then said was my idea

so could be be part time casual as required or on regular basis or full time position at this stage . See what happens

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TABSenior Contributor29 Sept 2026, 6:38 pm AEST

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https://youtu.be/jCnJLx8Ycco?si=CYkg1Wxsw0vJKHMY

heres some tunes for you while put rustled sheep on barbie with flagon and ok pie for AB @Appleblossom

your shack needed some Avant Garde 70s music and you didnt know it lol @mrmista

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mrmistaSenior Contributor29 Sept 2026, 7:28 pm AEST

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@Appleblossom @TAB

Ah now your talkin AB, foods are a brilliant luxury and pick me up l find.Actually , l'm kinda expanding atm , bit too much luxury on the bad stuff haha. Damn it. Why is everything nice in life bad for ya. My nearest town has a great bakery does magnificent pies, love nicking over for one of theirs, actually l usually buy 2- not good, plus a cake man their cakes are even better than their pies , not good not good at all. Lean tos eh, back in the day mudbrick was going off in my old area, they built some gorgeous stuff, often scavenging 95% of it.

Yeah, completely off grid, this cabins never had mains l'd never do a tie in system, don't want those blood suckers near my power. l put solar on here back first day, bout 17yrs ago but it's been rented out through most of that. Just a small system built myself. Put my own solar on my house to about 6yrs back - completely disconnected the main. Mind you, that was the place l lost on and what started this thread but nothing to do with the solar.

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mrmistaSenior Contributor29 Sept 2026, 7:38 pm AEST

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@TAB .

Shyt , your working TAB, l thought you were out all together these days, how is to be back out there , do you like it ? Your friends might get a bit more practical as time goes on eh, unless they get work again. Man not much fun living with zero left after bills eh. l thought about a caravan park while l was making up my mind about this place. Did stay at free camps with the van on my trip 12mths and then another 4 or 5 through this yr to when l got back, was thinking about a park. But l dunno, seemed silly when l could live here free so yeah, went with that. Sides, needed to make up my mind about what to do with it so living here for a taste of it for a bit was the idea .

Thx for the music man, me likes TABS music. When l finish my place a new sound systems gonna be first on the bloody list.

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TABSenior Contributor29 Sept 2026, 7:39 pm AEST

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..so do you have 240v power and if so what can you run, a kettle ? @mrmista

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TABSenior Contributor29 Sept 2026, 7:42 pm AEST

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can use fire to boil water @mrmista need sum tunes tho lol guess car radio could work hey

https://youtu.be/vdHmZ5aJ9mY?si=38h1hT7zmVtxZxSw

@Appleblossom

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