Tooky History: Clipart but potentially triggering

@Former-Member - I don't know you at all. You could be the person who I see when I walk my dog or the one behind me at the check out at Woolies. You could be living in another state or country. Regardless, I do think you have an incredible strength to have shared your story. You have survived this far and that's an achievement in itself.

You need to do what's right for you. Just remember what four young lads from Liverpool once sang "I get by with a little help from my friends" It's obvious that you have friends here. I wish you well whatever you decide.

@Former-Member I just re read your other thread. I have to admit the reason I said I shouldn't have contributed was that I had self medicated both times. I wasn't really thinking straight. I've been hanging on the edge so much lately which isn't helping with clarity of thought. The thing that I just took from your BPD post was that you were looking for validation that his manipulation had nothing to do with BOD and I think that all got missed. I don't know but it sounds like his behaviour did go way beyond BPD although there are some tiny threads you could attach. I still strongly believe that no one can hide behind their diagnosis when it comes to abuse. I whole heartedly think there are sadly times when MI do cause harm but it's up to the person to deal with it. What you went through was pure psychological abuse. There is no way of reframing that. I very much would like you to see that there was never a competition for a winner or loser. In my eyes you will always be the winner for reclaiming you. I bet he still hasn't done anything towards meaningful. He is a life loser if he doesn't wake up and address his stuff whatever it really is. I'm not a psychiatrist and if I was I bet my diagnosis of him would differ to ten other psychiatrist but to me none of that seems important. It's you that's important, you that had to rebuild and you that did all that hard work to be the best tooky you can. As for your place here it's about giving and receiving support and sharing ideas and much of the time being validated for the way you feel. I'm really sorry if that hasn't happened. I hope this helps. As I said before you are the most important person here so please do what is best for you. 💜🤗

So sorry if that post still seems wobbly and all over the place @Former-Member. I just couldn't wait until I was feeling calm cos quite frankly that's not going to happen for a while 😳:face_with_rolling_eyes:

and connection. The forum provides connection which you have managed to do in spades. But it's still up to you as to whether these things are helpful or not. 💜😳😘💐

Thank you @Former-Member. I'm afraid when they come from my heart they just flow out and I tend to hit post without thinking.....and then I over think them 😳 I hope you are travelling ok today. I wish I could be more present on the forum than I am. I'm finding it quite a challenge at the moment. I try to step in from time to time but it's hard sometimes. I'm glad you seem to be slowly finding more comfortable places on the forum. Wishing you all the best 💜🤗💐

@Former-Member you are absolutely right on point. Thankyou. 🙂 You need to have more confidence in yourself. You are sensitive and perceptive beyond what you give yourself credit for. Thanks so much.

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@Former-Member You get it, you think you don't but you very much get it. Thankyou too so much.

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and.. btw

@Mazarita thankyou for your support, I am sorry I knew I had overlooked someone. Not because of anything else other than I'm just fuzzy atm... and ditto on that from me too 🙂