Tooky History: Clipart but potentially triggering

@Former-Member I wish you the best, and yes.. try mindfulness or ask your pscyh about CBT if what I said about good decisions in the now mean good outcomes in the future. If your psych is good, then I believe CBT can help you. Thanks for all your help and support.

❤️

Tooky

Woah hold up there @Former-Member. There's some huge stuff happening for you at the moment. That thread had danger written all over it and we both knew that so massive huge hugs to you from someone who gets that part at least.

Can I take you back to that place last night where you were telling me that you no longer wanted him to be able to hurt anyone? That place where I said I couldn't do this anymore and you were the one who got me out. That Tooky is still there, just stuck in a moment. I really believe this.

What might help (the world's most frustrating question sometimes sorry)!

Hold on @Former-Member please!

Tooky I am here. Right here with you. I can't 'get' it but I can and I am here for you if you'd like. @Former-Member you give me hope and I want to give it to you because I really do believe you can be ok and so SO much more than ok.

@Former-Member I'm really sad to hear that you're leaving. Please stay.

Sometimes people on here will post things that might upset others. This is a community, and like other communities, there will be challenges. But please know that we're here to support you.

Feel free to email me: team@saneforum.org

@Former-Member please reach out tonight. To sane, to us, to a friend... You're not alone, even if it feels like you are.

My heart is hurting for you Tooky. I will respect that you need to do what is right for you, but please know I am here as are so many others, ready for you if/when you are ready to come back whenever that is.

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Hi @Former-Member.

I want you read this. It's not true. I think you need to know though at the end off the day he can never win. I am n a similar situation to you. I can't even share my story here because it's so left of field and regards my ex partners MI. The way I have learned to deal with it is to disregard that part. It was his responsibility to seek help, it was his responsibility to take actions so that any underlying mi wouldn't affect anyone else. There is no excuse at the end of the day for him or anyone not to seek help if they are hurting anyone whether it is because of a mi or not. This is what I have learned how to deal with my situation. My BPD traits went through the roof because of what my ex did that caused me trauma like responses.

Please stay here, there is room for all stories, some times things cross over and people get hurt but I believe we can all move on. I was incredibly hurt from stuff in last night conversation and I'm not going to say what or who but it's part of the circle of life on the forum. I know that was said was never meant to hurt but sometimes our toes get accident,y trodden on and sometimes it's with high heals and we wince in pain.

I said before and I'll say it again. You belong here. I'm sure there are a 100 ways we can support you. 💜🤗💐

@Former-Member - just want you to know that you have been very therapeutic and understanding of my circumstances which seem to bear quite a few similarities to your own. If you need a break, that's understandable but please know that your input here is very much appreciated and valued.

@Former-Member - I am so sorry for any part I might have played in that thread and the hurt it has caused. I know I said at least a few things that I instantly wished I could have put into different words because my emotions got the better of me and I didn't stop and think. Not saying this as an excuse, but more as a mistake. I've been trying to find a better place to write this to you but can't. I wish, and I am thinking that maybe tooky does at the moment too (but maybe not I don't know), that that we didn't start that thread at all now. I know we thought about it and discussed it before it went ahead, but now i'm so badly regretting that I didn't listen more closely to that gut feeling. It's all a bit much I think.

Feel rest assured @Former-Member it wasn't you but it really doesn't matter who because I have respect for you all, I'm definitely not holding it as something intentional more like something I need to get over. . it was probably the last thing anyone would have expected. I am feeling like I'm tripping up over all my words at the moment. I shouldn't have got involved in that thread last night as I was not totally rational or in such a good headspace. Probably shouldn't tonight but felt passionate about sharing that @Former-Member is not alone in feeling alone here but it will get better and sometimes things get difficult. I hope you are ok. I was worried for you last night.