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Moving forward (sexual abuse )

Unknown userMember08 Mar 2017, 3:43 pm AEDT

Moving forward (sexual abuse )

Hi fellow Sane people
Im really struggling with the disclosure of my sexual abuse and how to move forward.
Yes im safe and all the right steps have been taken etc but im still struggling to move forward
Im wondering what people have done snd strategies you've used in order to get through it?

Does it get easier over time?

Im very embarrassed and ashamed and scared by it and struggling so any help would be great.
It would be great to know if there are any other survivors on here and how you are now and how it affect the way you live

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Unknown userMember21 Mar 2017, 8:28 am AEDT

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Thanks little turtle @Phoenix_Rising
Im glad someone believes me ❤❤
It was a struggle just to write my stories out on here but at least its out now

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Unknown userMember21 Mar 2017, 8:42 am AEDT

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That's normal to not know where you want to head. When your not well I find the brain to be a puzzle in a thousand pieces with kid throwing them around then a twister comes and blows them more around.

What you need to focous on is day to day. Day to day is a massive goal. Once you get secure in that do week to week and so on and then you will start to know where you want head. But remember some days it's going to be easy and some days you are going to take 20 steps back. It's normal. And it's going to take time.

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Unknown userMember21 Mar 2017, 10:14 am AEDT

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thanks @Former-Member i think im still at the stage of minute by minute but one day itll go from day to day

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Unknown userMember21 Mar 2017, 10:18 am AEDT

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All you need to do is take a deep breath. Literally tackle everything one at a time. Everything must look like a tusnami at the moment but if you take a breath before you attack it or deal with it you will start to notice it's actually all little waves making a big wave and instead of attacking the big wave attack a small one that you know you can deal with and keep going then the mega wave will get smaller.

That's what I do others wise I freak out big time and got zero clue where to go as I think I got one massive issue but really it's all different size issues that can be delt with

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Unknown userMember21 Mar 2017, 11:13 am AEDT

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Thanks@loulathecat
That is a better way to look at things. People always tell me to loom at the bug picture which is what ive been doing but if i tackle one small thing at a time and break it down i think i will get further than what i am now

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BlueBaySenior Contributor21 Mar 2017, 11:15 am AEDT

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Thinking of you @Former-Member xxoo

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Unknown userMember21 Mar 2017, 11:31 am AEDT

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Thanks @BlueBay ❤❤❤ your so kind

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Unknown userMember26 Mar 2017, 8:43 pm AEDT

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ok i think i really trust you guys on here , do you mind if i let something out thats been on my mind relating to this abuse? @Appleblossom@Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member

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Unknown userMember26 Mar 2017, 8:46 pm AEDT

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Hi @Former-Member

you dont need to ask! (also remembering the community guidelines 🙂 no graphic detail, should be ok)

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Unknown userMember26 Mar 2017, 8:53 pm AEDT

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yep theres no graphic detail @Former-Member

ok so when all this was happening, at one point i thought i was pregnant and it got me really worried and i cant seem to get it out of my mind of what i would have had to do, none of the options would have been easy esp since i was only 16.

it really scares me everyday and i dont know how to put it aside, it jsut really has me freaked out and jsut brings all those dirty feleings and weird feeling inside me back up

do you have any advice @Appleblossom@Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope

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