hey @Fah, adjusting is never easy especially if big one like yours as first experiance
i saw @Oaktree tag i & @Realness i didnt get yours from earlier sorry i see it wasnt blue in your opost though which happened to me as well until i learned iys how you know notifications been sent.
Thank you @ oaktree & @realness for seeing good intent in my post to Fah as after sending it i had worried about speaking out of skool so was appreciated.
Your just lwanted a message here for fah to read post @realness is telling your care is genuine, you must be a nice soul i hope you know this.
being alones big adjustment @Fah harder for for first time but it has its positives it just takes time to learn something new. once you do though you wont remember how hard it is now.
inot knowing how to shop or cook i fund being single real hard at first,
for most parts like being single now though still cant cook & when i do feel idown remind nyself its a thought i found music is good to help me be sad if thats what i need for a bit and also help me get above it when sorrow is validated .
No one can say its always good same as people been together 30yrs wont say its always been good the key is to not let the sad times be so consuming that the good times @ opportunities go passed and get missed.
i reckon if your fur baby is house trained landlord will be fine however mental health for me unless i risked falls and things i wouldnt share personally, just me i maybe thimk is it necessary though and remember undiagnosed people experience same emotions after break ups so dont feel your struggles are from MH alone it can amplify them for sure with rumenation & catastrophic thinking and i do hope your ok and finding ways to make it work. radical acceptance is helpful once inderstood.
honestly being in a relationship for convenience is depriving you both of a life of love & replacing it with unnecessary heartache instead this i is a certainty unless done transparently.
what type of dog do you have? my best mates a long haired chiuaua. wasnt a choice thing just happened & now hes my rock.
sometimes we take people for granted and its in thier absence we realise.
the ol dunno what you got till its gone
make sure to know what your intentions are so you can make clear boundaries if you contact other person especially if their feelings are still strong
its ok to not love them, you dont want to destroy them either so if theres no hope let them know at the start, wjho knows could be a better situation for you if its done with insight and communication.
know your not alone even when brain wants ypiu to feel you are i there are people on here that care from understanding
hope your finding more good days and dont miss realness thoughtful message
