My life has been turned on it’s head 🫠😭

Hi @Fah ,

I'm new to this Forum and my replies aren't as good as other people's but I wanted you to have a reply.

I liked your post. So much going on for you.

How could you not be feeling heaps of emotions?

I guess it's living one moment at a time for awhile - which I think you're already doing. Three years is a long time - it's a huge change. That is if you're sure you've made the right decision.

Thinking of you.

@Fah @Realness

Wow @Fah you have had a lot of change in such a short amount of time. I think it is normal to be feeling a bit all over the place with many emotions all at the same time. Just try to be compassionate with yourself and let yourself feel it all. The breakup is going to bring grief as well as the death of your loved one as well. There are 5 stages of grief, and they are not linear. You can and probably will ping pong around among the 5 stages. The 5 stages of grief are.

• Denial
• Anger
• Bargaining (making deals)
• Depression
• Acceptance

It may take you a long time to get to acceptance. There is no rush. It might help you to understand how you are feeling a little more. The breakup is a huge life change; however you have probably done the right thing breaking it off sooner than later. It would only get harder the longer you waited. You never know what could happen in the future. You may change your mind, or you might not. It's in your court.

Is it terrible that today I feel hopeful and excited about a future without him? I think I realised I’d kind of moved on a while ago in my heart… and I feel almost like I cheated because of that. I feel bad for hurting someone I care about. I don’t love him tho

When I went thru the stuff w my parents I felt like I needed him. But I didn’t want him. Now I know I don’t need or want him…

Hi @Fah ,

Spot on defining and sharing again.

Sounds like you're having a better day today.

Hi @Fah ,

Saw your post. Thanks for the update.

Bad day go away.

Oh, that didn't help.

There's at least one person looking at these posts if you want to share more.

hey @Fah sorry to hear things aren't going well today. it sucks when one moment things are okay, and the next, it's the opposite. the community is here for you 💙

also wanted to let you know that you can tag people you're responding to, using the @ symbol and typing the username - it'll turn blue like this @Realness which means the member will be notified of your response.

hi @Fah

good days and bad days happen regardless,

a relationship without recipricated feelings if ones not aware hurts both in different ways

you done the right thing. sometimes the heart and the brain dont run same frequency straight away when they match up again you will be right so back yourself till then.

if waiting saw a kid arrive different ball game.

its always an adjustment being in a space thats been shared with another.

in time you stop seeing them in the corner of your eyes and finding things that trigger pangs pf mixed emotions & hearing them pull up in the drive.way stops.

the size of bed becomes familiar and cooking smaller portions will become the norm.

if furniture's not moved since moving in mix it up a bit so your not focused on ome change

if eating alone feels too silent put music on and play something from 5 years ago or earlier so stuff you sang in car together doesnt blindside you.

if miss the male voice ;isten to podcast or radiio and at times of loneliness jump in car go buy icecream and remind your self your independant not alone and can do whatever you want.

if going out and hitting it choose the right people that will see each other safely home at end of night or hold to any agreement made before leaving.

easy to enjoy attention too much straight after break up and the saying quickest way get over someone is get under someone else needs to have without being seperated from your friends or getting in cars drunk without tellimg anyone added.

in case your only young and headng out in the world i may be wrong ,

going by post just left parents house and rocky relations there

just thinking might be young uncaring parents may never said staying safe is being selective who you party with.

when your going out on town always have a pineapple in your bra so you know you can get a taxi or whatever if lose purse or get robbed you never stuck no money.

Hi @Fah ,

No need to reply but wanted you to know I'm thinking of you and hoping it's a better day today.

I liked the last post by @REDLINEZ750 with all the suggestions on adjusting from being a part of a couple.