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disclosing very uncomfortable information

Unknown userMember06 Mar 2017, 6:17 pm AEDT

disclosing very uncomfortable information

hi im new here to Sane but im hoping maybe someone can give me some advice on what to do or how to go about it?

so this issue is causing me a fair bit of grief but ive been holding it in for about 2 years but i guess its not something you just get over. i know that i kinda have to disclose it to my psycholigist but im really scared to do it

how would you go about it ? and i know that mayne if i actually told someone i could get in contact with the right services.. what do you think?

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Unknown userMember07 Mar 2017, 8:02 am AEDT

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Thank you @Ellu
It wasnt illegal it was something that happened to me 2 years ago that ive held on to until last night when i rang the hotline. I dont think im going to tell my psych yet though but im really not doing too well. I thought it would be relief when i did say something but all i feel is shame embarrassment and disgraced 😞 😞

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Unknown userMember07 Mar 2017, 8:05 am AEDT

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Hi @Former-Member
I just keep powering through the day the day usually but i do have my gp this morning so its prob good that i have that there

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Unknown userMember07 Mar 2017, 8:17 am AEDT

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There's something inside you that helps you 'power through' then. Trust yourself that whatever that is will stand strong.

What you're describing sounds a lot like trauma (something happening to you) and reminds me a lot of a clip I watched that described experiencing trauma as being a little like fizzy drinks in a bottle sometimes. When shaken the pressure inside gets massive and opening the lid quickly can make everything inside pour out. If the lid is opened in little turns and closed in between, the pressure is released gradually while the contents stay safely inside. Finding someone who can support you to work through it this way might be important.

In the meantime, know you're not alone in feeling like this and, although it might be scary or frustrating or hard, your feelings sound like a normal reaction to something tough.

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Unknown userMember07 Mar 2017, 9:07 am AEDT

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I really hope so @Former-Member

I have gone through 2 very bad ptsd events. One i talk about and one is the one i disclosed just last night

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utopiaSenior Contributor07 Mar 2017, 9:26 am AEDT

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@Former-Member. You made it through a very tough night.
You do not have to disclose to anyone. It is up to you who and when you disclose.
But your psychologist can help you through this 'transition' period. You do not need to tell him what the incident was - purely that you did disclose to a help line & now you are struggling. Your psychologist can work with that information only - with your feelings.
That way he can teach you new techniques to help calm your fears and sense of shame.
Take things easy today. And remember, none of this was your fault.

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Unknown userMember07 Mar 2017, 10:19 am AEDT

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hi @utopia

i dont see my psych until next week but i do see my gp today.

im still struggling. i couldnt even get out of bed this morning, i still feel sick and ive had no sleep

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utopiaSenior Contributor07 Mar 2017, 10:28 am AEDT

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@Former-Member. Yes you will be triggered today. Disclosing is good and the start of your healing journey. But I don't think you can do it alone. You really need that expert help on working through what is now 'coming up ' for you. Can you call your psych and let him know you are struggling and need an earlier time. If you explain the basics - he may be able to slot you in earlier.
I just don't want you to have to do this on your own.♥♥

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ElluSenior Contributor07 Mar 2017, 10:32 am AEDT

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It must have been a very traumatic thing for you to feel so strongly about it. Making the disclosure last night must have affected you deeply. I think it is something you should discuss with your psych next week. A psych is trained to handle these situations and can help you by supporting you and showing you ways you can help yourself cope.

In the meantime, maybe the GP can give you an anti-anxiety agent to help you feel less upset and stressed. Take some time to help calm yourself down. A warm cup of tea can relax you. Have you ever done any colouring-in? Newsagents sell adult colouring-in books with beautiful pictures to colour. This sounds silly, but it is a way of relaxing and focussing the mind so that your thoughts don't disdurb you. My 27 year-old son does colouring-in to wind down after a hard day at work. Try to get outdoors - even a walk around the block for some fresh air.

Thinking of you,

Ellu

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Unknown userMember07 Mar 2017, 11:00 am AEDT

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@utopia

yeah ill see if i can get in abit earlier. everything is very triggering and im not doing well at all. im struggling to not give in to self harm as well

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Unknown userMember07 Mar 2017, 11:03 am AEDT

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yes it was pretty traumatising which i why ive held on to it for so long and becasue i was and still am so ashamed and embarrssed and feel disgraced.

it really has affected me. maybe more than it should. maybe i really am overreacting.

yes i have a colouring book already but when im stressed i dont find it helps it makes it worse as im sitting still and i get really frustrated easy.

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