Concepts about brain resistance to change - Dr. Joe Dispenza

@PeppyPatti

Hey hun, sending you comforting hugs.

I am sorry that things are hard right now.

You will get better, the thing is that you are aware that you are struggling so that is the first part to healing. Good luck with your son. Hopefully everything turns out ok there for you both.

Sending good vibes to you xxx

Getting in early @PeppyPatti?

My birthday's on the 26th.

I'm of the believe that "Crazy Cat Ladies" are some of the most sane people I've met, @ENKELI. Your friend sounds like a gem!

Look, there's probably a level of responsibility we need to acknowledge of ourselves when it comes to isolation, which feels ick. I really feel you on this one. There's some beauty in that though, because if part of the reason we are experiencing isolation is because of ourselves it can often mean there is something we can do about it.

I'm often the friend who is doing the organising / planning for catch-ups with my friends. It can be exhausting, and I hate when people bail on me. That RSD is triggered.

I adore that you see the benefits in your digital connections with your SANE family. I try to explain this to people so frequently. I'm curious; do you think it's the digital / online format of this space, or just the people that make it easier to connect here? Or maybe both?

I've written down Yahava, as I'm going back to Perth for a holiday in December! Perth coffee has let me down in the past, so maybe this will redeem it haha

And yes; the beaches are superior. Here's a picture from my last trip.

That sounds like a very stressful situation, @PeppyPatti. It seems like you're at least semi-aware of what the trigger was? What did you do immediately after the session? How did you ground yourself?

On a very different note; what are your favourite biscuits? 😊

Dearest @0ddsidian

Im very comfortably older than you -

What have i achieved .....hmmm

Nothing except seeing a therapist for 23 years is that she knows me.

So today i saw her and we disscused my mind since beginning of August.

One - she is going to contact my support coordinator --

And let her know about the support worker who took over weirdo support worker how shes already not turning up for sessions and pretending she was

There with me.

she said it makes sence why i freaked about the son. She dropped a hint that he is coming to see me at christmas. I actually am delighted he has decided to see my therapist

It was just tough. Not me i dont know who but i was different than i felt.

Thankyou. Let's start talking about Joe Dispenza

@ccau_82 @NightFury @Oaktree @ENKELI @Glisten

Seeing a therapist for 23 years is quite impressive to me, @PeppyPatti. I've been seeing different therapists for over 15 years, I think. I sometimes liken them to a good pair of jeans; you often need to try on a few before you find one that fits. And even after you find one that fits initially, sometimes you grow or change and need a new pair anyway. But not always 😊

I watched this Joe Dispenza video earlier (I don't love the title of the video). It's from about 12 years ago. Towards the end he says "95% of who you are by the time you're 35 years old is a set of memorised behaviours (which are subconscious)" and so any conscious changes that we wish to make in our lives (the remaining 5%) are up against 95%. No wonder it's so difficult for us to make changes! But it's possible.

Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself - Introductory Lecture

@ccau_82 @Oaktree @ENKELI

I don't know if @ENKELI @Oaktree @ccau_82 @NightFury @0ddsidian

Will agree @0ddsidian

But well -- Let's keep it little.

back to Sane forums

You wrote -

watched this Joe Dispenza video earlier (I don't love the title of the video). It's from about 12 years ago. Towards the end he says "95% of who you are by the time you're 35 years old is a set of memorised behaviours (which are subconscious)" and so any conscious changes that we wish to make in our lives (the remaining 5%) are up against 95%. No wonder it's so difficult for us to make changes! But it's possible.

Okay - im almost ready to rewatch. I don't want to imagine how tough this part of my life was but

On reflection

I changed only because i saw a therapist.

What is change for me.

Not gravitating to very dangerous partners.

Today - learning

Boundries.

Its difficult fie me to grow old with a therapist. To see her getting more wealthy

To come home to stupid public housing to my drugf. .. ...husband.

What the f.....do i have then

I read and get strength from you people. Fractured, ripped up.

It took me years to acknowledge this is what i need. 15 years - well remember - even bad therapy breaks down your defences. Your half wayi there.

I love you for being vulnerable with me.

@0ddsidian

I adore that you see the benefits in your digital connections with your SANE family. I try to explain this to people so frequently. I'm curious; do you think it's the digital / online format of this space, or just the people that make it easier to connect here? Or maybe both?

To me its -- no judgement.

We are all speaking the same language. .

There is no judgement its like we can speak of something good happening and you either get " thats like me! Or not.

@0ddsidian i like that you have time to answer without having to immediately answer.

Oooo! Learning about boundaries is bloody hard, @PeppyPatti. Figuring out what your boundaries are, how to talk about them and THEN how to maintain them. And then there's the challenge of other people's boundaries too.

I also get strength from reading what people share in the forums, and interacting with you all. Not sure how I got so lucky to be doing this for work, because I also get so much out of it myself!

I absolutely agree about the "no judgement" stuff. And also with how you don't have to answer immediately. Sometimes we need time to sit with our thoughts and collect ourselves and then figure out how we want to word something.

@0ddsidian @PeppyPatti I have some books on boundaries, my mum was my kryptonite up until a few years ago. She would say jump and I would say how high, what direction and for how long.

I loaned one of the books to ex friend as she had no boundaries whatsoever but she didn't take its advice. They are written from a Christian perspective so not for everybody but I found them helpful.

@0ddsidian I agree with you that you get a chance to answer when you're ready, there's no pressure. The only drawback with the forums is that while Sane doesn't encourage forming bonds as humans we inevitably do form connections with certain people.

There are people on the forums I would love to meet in person but know that will never happen and that saddens me. I know it has to be that way though.