Concepts about brain resistance to change - Dr. Joe Dispenza

• I woke up this morning @0ddsidian and i thought all your defences are over

What does that mean ?

In my eyes you are a survivor. It takes a lot of resilience and courage to commit to a long-term process like therapy, and i admire you.

Then to work in a place like sane forums when you would ne faced with stories and issues where you would be confronted

whether your own "defenses" are truly in the past and whether you've fully developed into the survivor you are.

Reach for the stars @0ddsidian

Iv had actually 40 years of therapy. 40 years. I know there was something wrong - i Didnt know what it was.

Iv struggled with Freud - that flippant quote from Freud, " what is there after therapy ? Plain unhappiness.

But in book,

I have a booked called "Set Boundaries, Find Peace" that I'm yet to read, @ENKELI.

I hear you about the limitations of the Forums. It's a phenomenal space for sure, but it's very valid to want the opportunity to connect out in "the wild". I've made some wonderful online friendships; several of which I will never meet face-to-face.

Wow @PeppyPatti! You are incredibly sweet and this has made me all warm ❤️

I'm so grateful to do this work. Only a small part of my actual day-to-day work brings me into the Forums, and I love it when I get the opportunity to do so.

I don't think my defenses are fully in the past. I view recovery (for me) as being a lifelong process. I'm always growing and changing, and l learn something new about myself constantly. I learn the most about myself through connecting with other people with lived experience.

I also struggle with Freud and don't pay him much attention. We touched on him slightly at uni, but I always found him to be a bit odd, and didn't feel like his theories actually related to me.

Object Relations by Lavinia Gomez is practically my most favourite book in the universe.

@0ddsidian @ccau_82 @Oaktree @ENKELI @NightFury

But all that study, practically sleepng with Melanie Klien and Hannah ..........the lady who reserched her, all that is basically forgotten.

I dunno about Freud. I remember reading the Discontants book and being completely blown away positively by it.

And Prophet Song by Paul Lynch.

This is an aside, but have you read Heidi? Now THAT was a book I was blown away with the innocence and positivity! @PeppyPatti

guess i would say that your job here is to work with your empathy and emotional boundaries. @0ddsidian

And the therapy you've done means in my eyes - i might be wrong but you can see your own journey with more clear clarity.

@0ddsidian @ccau_82 @tyme @ENKELI @NightFury

I don't remember all that Freud stuff. I just think that when therapy ends - it isnt about living in soul searching bliss but

All it does it , frees you from that misery of your past so that you are better equipped to face life and the sorrows of life with more ...........clarity.

It took me 4 years to trust my therapist. And this is after about 12 years of bad therapy.

I guess letting go of defences are that

You understand your way to act whether its humour, denial,

I guess i mean ---- i just looked up what i mean and i mean you have begun having more self awareness.

Can i give an example ?

Sorry its a personal reflection.

- my son lives with a useless shunt in his head and a hole drilled next to fontel to stop hydrocephalus. He Didnt talk to me for years and he idealized suicide.

Yes, hes damajed and if you spend time with him, you start feeling he is troubled.

I had to hold on that he had 2 years of therapy when he was 8 and i was hoping he would have the self awareness that he sees the doctor regularly . By saying self awareness i was hoping he would connect the dots and see that the care he received was from love.

Is that asking for my son to have self awareness ? I dunno

@ENKELI @ccau_82 @tyme @NightFury @Appleblossom

I want to reply to this @PeppyPatti but my sleep meds are kicking in and my ability to word is quickly disappearing.

Hold this space until tomorrow.

please do not tag me here @PeppyPatti i dont visit this thread

I think you summarised it nicely, @PeppyPatti.

Clarity and self-awareness is important. Sometimes I get caught up in my "head knowledge", like @ccau_82 mentioned a little over a week ago HERE. I'm trying to get more in touch with my "heart knowledge" and "gut knowledge" too.

I think we can wish people to have more self-awareness. That's normal. I think it's possible that every person might view "self-awareness" slightly differently. It's tricky to define.

• So iv been reading up on @ccau_82

To those who has experienced trauma,

can get "stuck" in a state of hypervigilance (mobilization) or emotional numbness ()

@NightFury @tyme @0ddsidian @ccau_82 @

. This happens because your nervous system, having been repeatedly exposed to danger, learns to automatically respond as if a threat is always present, even when it isn't

So the

Polyvagal theory explains how our nervous system controls our feelings of safety and danger, and how it affects our behavior.

The theory suggests that our nervous system operates in three main states