Concepts about brain resistance to change - Dr. Joe Dispenza

We are so aligned, @ENKELI! I would say that one of the biggest struggles of my early adulthood was MAINTAINING strong friendships. I could MAKE a friendship fine (because I was forced to as a RAAF brat), but like you, I got into the mindset of "What's the point in trying to maintain strong friendships? Nothing lasts". I have to put a lot of genuine effort and energy into maintaining friendships now, and unlearn that not-so-helpful mindset. It's a slow process but it's happening 😊

I also relate to your silver-lining. I've lived in or visited every state in Australia at least once, and that is largely due to my Dad's work. There's so many places I wouldn't have seen if it wasn't for his job. Is there a part of Australia that you are particularly fond of or remember seeing as a kid?

ALSO my maternal grandfather has a lot of trouble with hoarding. I think you might be right about how growing up with not a lot resources can make it hard to let things go.

@0ddsidian

Why the stuff that my Major support just crumbled ?

I think it's because I'm vulnerable --

@0ddsidian if I knew your age I'd say we could have been separated at birth! Lol! I'm not sure if I have a favourite place, Melbourne and Adelaide are my favourite cities in that order. I would like to visit FNQ and Tas one of these days.

My dad and 2 half sisters live in NSW, my parents split up and mum moved us back to the west where she and my dad are originally from. I don't much like Perth but while mum is still around I don't want to move too far from her. My favourite aunt is also just out of Perth in a small inland town so I wouldn't want to be too far from her either.

Like you, I found it easy to make friends, I was always sociable but there was never an emotional investment so when we moved it was "okay, see ya", and on to the next lot of friends. I went to a different high school to the one most kids at my last primary school went to so again I didn't make friends that lasted. Again with high school I was at one for years 8 - 10 and then upper school I was at another one. I have one friend who I call a lifelong friend. Our mums worked together and became friends and we are the same age. In all our years whilst living around the country and her living in the UK for many years, we now find it hilarious that we live within 5 minutes of each other, not by design but accident. She is the only person who truly knows me and who I truly trust.

I got badly burnt a few years back when I became friends with someone to the point I was supporting her emotionally and financially through her divorce, became Godmother to her kids and was sharing a house with her for 8 years. I'd known her for about 10 years and she was the second person I trusted. Sadly she destroyed that trust, and me along the way so now I don't even bother trying to make new friends.

What is your favourite part of Aus?

@ENKELI

@ccau_82

@PeppyPatti

@0ddsidian

@Oaktree

I LOVING this thread. I love how the different strands are joining together and then splitting off only to come back together again.

It just goes to show that when you are curious and patient it’s very rare that there is no points of similarity, and also how interesting our points of difference are.

thank you all for your contributions 🩷

@Magpie22 wow, well put. I never thought about it until you brought it up so thanks for that 🫂

@ENKELI - Melbourne is my favourite city as well; not just because I wear a lot of black and am a bit of a coffee snob haha I enjoyed living in the Northern Territory for a few years as a kid. The environment was just so beautiful and unlike any other part of the world I've seen. I do really like Perth, although I've never lived there. It's becoming my go-to holiday destination. I'm a sunset girl, so I prefer the west coast.

Our high school experiences are also weirdly similar! It's really interesting (and honestly frustrating sometimes) how the frequent uprooting continues to have such a profound impact on the way we relate today, even as adults. I think there's some grief there that I need to process (over time).

I love how you talk about your lifelong friend! Soul sister ♥️ The universe bringing you to live so close together is lovely.

I'm sorry to hear about your past friendship and how that burnt you. It sounds like you were a very empathetic and giving human, and that it feels like that was taken advantage of. That's a reflection of that person and their actions, and absolutely not of your wonderful compassionate nature. In the last few years I've come to appreciate more "surface level" friendships. I used to only want those deep soul connections in my friendships. Now I'm learning to appreciate when I can gently connect with people in a light way. Those types of friendships serve a purpose and are of value; just in a different way. Do you have those types of friendships; where they aren't super deep or vulnerable, but they are light and enjoyable in their own way?

I'm sorry that things are so rough right now, @PeppyPatti

I saw a quote the other day that said the price for connection is vulnerability, and that the cost of not being vulnerable is no real connection. It honestly scared me a bit, but I'm inclined to believe it.

@0ddsidian unfortunately I let ex friend isolate me so I was left with less friends than before I'd met her. If I went anywhere without her she would be constantly texting me or calling me and then I started separating myself from those friends. My soul sister ( I call her my crazy cat lady friend as she has 8 cats!) is not my best friend but she's definitely my sister from another mister and when her mum was still alive I used to be her rent a daughter when my friend was in the UK. She and a dear friend in the US are the only 2 friends I have after isolating myself from everyone for nearly 9 years. I'm as much to blame as ex friend for that. Ex friend has no friends- I say that without cruelty as she told me that herself. I wanted to throw her a birthday party and she told me that no one would come as she has no friends.

I have a couple of friends who I speak to occasionally but I am the one who is always trying to catch up with them and they are always busy. One friend I haven't spoken to.since the beginning of August and the other one, May.

I do have a friend I'm in touch with regularly but she lives in Melbourne and is much younger than me.

These days I'm very self conscious because I have my front teeth missing due to dry mouth disease and I don't like socialising because I feel everyone is looking at me. Logically I know they probably aren't but I still feel embarrassed.

To be honest for the time being I am content to spend time with my Sane family as I call those I interact with on Sane - no one is judging me. I would like surface friends to catch up with for a cuppa or lunch though.

The next time you're in Perth, make sure you get out to Yahava in the Swan Valley.

They not only have different coffee blends they also do syrups and sell all things coffee.

And I will be brazen and say Perth has the best beaches out of every city in Aus 😁

I have never been to Yaheva @ENKELI

But I believe there's a visit about to happen. No. No man, just me .......oh and Peanut.

Ok I'll ask Mr Rocker to come but probably not.

How does it feel that your going to be adopting me and Peanut

To have mutual coffee connections

Also

@Oaktree @Magpie22 @0ddsidian @ccau_82 @Glisten @Bill16 @TAB

I just wrote to @tyme ..,...

Um......

@0ddsidian .......

My brain has been going weird.

My son the one who hates me ---- (that's ok )

Has decided to go back to see my therapist and I accidently found out so I got it in my head she's taking him away from me like Mum did when he was 15.

Simple. 23 years. Iv seen her.

Twenty three years and we had a big argument. My therapist is quite quite ill and I freaked when I turned up to see her.

Called her things I maybe shouldn't have.

I need to swallow my potty mouth. I see @ENKELI and @Oaktree @ccau_82 @Magpie22 smiling when I say this.

Why can't I share her for a wee while when she knows the history and she can help my son ?

Happy birthday @NightFury

Where is those yummy chocolate bickies ?

@Bunniekins