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oceangirlSenior Contributor
I am really not doing so well & I am struggling. I can't seem to function too well atm. I am shutting down. I saw my psych today, and she doesn't think doing exercise science is going to be good choice to study because there is not much work available in this field.
I am not able to articulate too well, what is happening for me. I am just exhasuted and scared and alone.
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
@Zoe7 I am glad you able to speak up more for yourself, I generally do the same thing and wait to see how I am when I arrive on the day. Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith and trust the process.
My mum has been unwell for a little while and she was in ICU on Monday but she is doing much better now. She will be hospital for another week. I told her to stay in and rest and she is in the best place to get the help and treatment she needs. I spend quite a bit of time with her yesterday.
You know me too well sis @Zoe7. I do get stressed when my mum is in hospital because I worry about her. She knows how to get in touch with me anytime and I will be down at the hospital as soon as I can. Last night it only took me 30mins to get home- I had good run home.
I know how the downwards spiral is and I think its related to all the negative feelings you have, I am not sure if that's the case for you but that is what happens to me. I have had to learn to raise above that feeling.
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
@Zoe7 Are you feeling sleepy?
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Yes I do know how worried you get about your Mum xxx So glad that she is doing a little better though and she needs to stay where she is getting the best care 
@oceangirl
WOW - 30 minutes to get home - that must be a record! How is your Dad coping? I bet you have been doing stuff for both of them!!!!
Yep - you know me too well also. Those pesky neagtive feelings for both of us have been a lifetime in the making - literally!!!! Soooo hard to rise above what you have always known and believed. I am trying to work on it but it is a long, hard road. Some days it is just too much but you are right - I think we are both getting better at knowing when we have reached our limits and need to take a step back. The one consolation in all this is that I have someone who does know - and does understand - and is around again to help walk with me. So grateful and so happy again
I am getting a little sleepy - might not be up for much longer - the meds are starting to kick in tonight - haven't worked well the last couple of days - maybe because I am less worried tonight.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
OMG @oceangirl I am in absolute disbelief...
I was going to send you exactly the same song tonight - that is ridiculous!!!!!!!!
That is my second favourite song ever!!!!!! - After The Rose of course
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
The hospital is little further north then where my parents live- I just have to get from the hospital to the M1 and then straight home to the Helensvale exit. I just left yesterday at a good time. I was surprised when I was down there Wednesday, and when I left, I though I left at a bad time but the traffic was moving, and I had no bottlenecks on the way home @Zoe7
My Dad is coping okay, I have been down there twice and been out to dinner with him and he has enjoyed my company. He did ring me tonight, he phones me every night- telling me what show I need to watch on TV.
I generally feel this feeling in the pit of my stomach and I never really knew that feeling growing in my stomach is actually anxiety. But beside that anxiety is a deep seated pain that I find really hard to describe. But I think that is enough for tonight.
I am happy to hear you are getting sleepy, you should sign out for the night and try to get some sleep. I was getting a bit sleepy about half an hour ago.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Yep - that overwhelming and indescribable feeling that takes over your whole body - you don't know where it comes from, why it is there and how to get rid of it @oceangirl Anxiety Sucks!!
Glad to hear that you are getting tired. Hope you sleep well.
Goodluck tomorrow xx
Sweet dreams sis
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BTCfQ6Bb8QE
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
I never knew that was one of your favorite songs @Zoe7
It is the graduation song from hospital I will be attending soon - we have graduation ceremony every Monday in hospital for patients who complete the program. The song is played at the end of the ceremony, it means so much to me. I find it lifts my spirits I have actually not heard it in a long while probably not since I left the hospital almost two years ago- how time flies by.
Thanks sis for your beautiful song- true colours!!!! And I loved the hawaiian song last night!!!!
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
Sleep tight sis @Zoe7
Thanks for your postives wishes for tomorrow.
Its time for you to head off to bed.
Kisses to you & Toby & cat
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