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Wind-down Wednesdays

Wind-down Wednesdays

Welcome to Wind-down Wednesdays where we work through a new grounding or soothing tool on every third Wednesday! 🌺

The purpose of this thread is

  • To learn more about various grounding/soothing strategies (can add them into your self-care toolbox)
  • To understand why we do it and how it works in calming us down
  • To create a safe space for members to visit whenever they need to wind down and catch their breath. You can work on the strategy by yourself here, or tag community members to join you (please be mindful of our guidelines - remember that members may not always respond immediately, and let’s not place pressure on others to respond)
  • Promote self-care and self-reliance in regulating your emotions!

Got a grounding tool/soothing strategy you’d like to share on this thread? Email us (team@saneforums.org) to let us know and we’ll save you a Wednesday slot! 😊

The first grounding tool we’ll be exploring is the 3-3-3 technique.

3-3-3:

  • Name 3 things you see: scan the space around you. For each item you identify, really focus on the details of it – what colour is it? Is it heavy or light? Big or small? What’s the texture of the object?
  • Name 3 things you hear: what are some sounds near you or far from you, are they soft or loud? Listen closely to identify them.
  • Move 3 parts of your body: it can be light or dramatic movements such as slowly rolling your shoulders, clenching and unclenching your fists, wiggling your fingers and toes, jumping up and down, shaking your wrists, etc.

So how does this work?

Well, when we’re feeling anxious and overwhelmed, it can sometimes trigger a stress response where our body’s fight-flight-freeze system is activated, which you can learn more about here: The Four 'F' Trauma Responses - SANE Forums.

This system is typically activated when our body identifies a physical threat, our body enters a heightened state of arousal to help survive – this can look like increased heart rate, increased muscle tension, decreased appetite, etc. When our anxious thoughts keep activating this heightened state of arousal, it can lead to a very dysregulated nervous system where our bodies keep reacting out of proportion to the threat, making it hard to calm down.

Moving our focus from internal things (like anxious thoughts/feelings) to external things (like what we can see/hear), helps us slow things down and calm the stress response. It gives our body a chance to focus on things that it perceived as non-threatening (i.e. identifying a cup or a bird flying around), which gives our body a chance to slowly calm down.

Practicing grounding techniques regularly can help regulate the nervous system with time. For more information, feel free to read this article: 3-3-3 Rule for Anxiety: How to Use, Scientific Basis, Other Coping Strategies

Now let’s give it a go! Feel free to share the 3 things you saw, heard and the 3 body parts you moved – and any other reflections you’d like to add.

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Thanks for the reminder!

3 things I can see...

1) computer screen

2) my blanket

3) lights

3 things I can hear...

1) distant cars

2) typing on keyboard

3) feint buzz

Move 3 parts of my body...

1) my toes

2) my knees

3) my nose

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Welcome back to Wind-down Wednesdays! 💗

We're halfway through the week, and if you're like me, you're feeling exhausted already! It might be a good time for us to all take a few minutes out of our day and try this week's wind-down activity.

This week we're exploring...

Body Scans

Body scan is a guided, meditative practice that involves mentally ‘scanning’ through various body parts from head to toe (or toe to head).

It can help notice sensations, tension, or discomfort without judgment, which helps us reconnect with our body and stay present.

Have you ever felt discomfort or tension, but couldn't quite figure out where it was coming from or why? Do you experience flashbacks? Struggle with sleep? This might be a good exercise for you to try.

With regular practice, body scans can help improve sleep quality, help reduce anxiety, stress and pain, help with building self-awareness, and encourage self-compassion.

Here’s a few body scans videos to try out – there’s a couple that’s for kids, but they’re just as useful – i find that the ones for kids tend to explain things in a more simple and clear way!

Pick whichever one you feel most comfy with!

Here are some kid-friendly body scan videos - these ones encourage visualising things (such as a butterfly or x-ray) to help practice it. Especially for beginners, these can be easier to start with - and you can also get your kiddo to join in!

  • Butterfly Body Scan - uses ‘butterfly’ visualisation to help meditate (approx 5 mins).
  • The Body Scanner – uses an ‘x-ray’/body scanner visualisation (approx 6 mins).

Feel free to try a different one each day, or if there's another body scan video/podcast, etc., that you love - please share it with us!

Looking forward to hearing everyone's reflections around:

  • What part of your body held the most tension today?
  • What emotions came up during the scan, if any?
  • How easy or difficult was it to sit with uncomfortable sensations or feelings?
  • How are you planning to take care of your needs/discomforts/tensions today? What's one thing you'll do to show yourself some compassion?

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For those who don't like videos, here's a written-down version from this article: Body Scan Meditation: Benefits and How to Do It

You can think of a body scan as a mental X-ray slowly travelling across your body.

  1. Get cozy. Start by getting comfortable. Lie down or sit in a position that allows you to stretch your limbs easily.
  2. Focus. Close your eyes and begin focusing on your breath. Notice the sensation of your breath filling and leaving your lungs as you inhale and exhale.
  3. Choose where to start. Begin anywhere you like — the top of your head, left foot, right hand, right foot. Focus on that spot as you continue breathing slowly and deeply. Then move to another part of your body and do the same.
  4. Pay attention. Open your awareness to sensations of pain, tension, discomfort, or anything out of the ordinary.
  5. Go slow. Spend anywhere from 20 seconds to 1 minute observing these sensations.
  6. Acknowledge. If you begin to notice pain and discomfort, acknowledge and sit with any emotions these sensations bring up. Accept them without criticism. For example, if you feel frustrated and angry, don’t judge yourself for these emotions. Notice them and let them pass.
  7. Breathe. Continue breathing, imagining the pain and tension decreasing with each breath.
  8. Release. Slowly release your mental awareness of that specific part of your body and redirect it to your next area of focus. Some people find it helpful to imagine releasing one body part as they breathe out and moving on to the next as they breathe in.
  9. Move along. Continue the exercise along your body in a way that makes sense to you, whether you move from top to bottom or up one side and down the other.
  10. Note drifting thoughts. As you continue to scan your body, note when your thoughts drift. This will probably happen more than once, so don’t worry. You haven’t failed and can easily get your thoughts back on track. Just gently return your awareness to where you left off scanning.
  11. Visualise and breathe. Once you finish scanning parts of your body, let your awareness travel across your body. Visualise this as liquid filling a mould. Continue inhaling and exhaling slowly as you sit with this awareness of your whole body for several seconds.
  12. Come back. Slowly release your focus and bring your attention back to your surroundings.
Here are a few more body scans, they're 8-13 mins each: Body Scan Meditation - Medito Foundation

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Hello @rav3n , @tyme , @NightFury , @Cherub23 , @Eve7

It is wednesday again , wow

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Thanks for the tag @Shaz51 💙💙💙

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hello hello! welcome back to wind-down wednesday 💙

today's bit of info is more of an 'everyday' practice rather than an activity - it's about how we breathe on a day-to-day basis!

Did you know that your heart rate increases when you inhale, and decreases when you exhale?

Did you know that ‘breathing for survival’ and ‘healthy breathing’ are different?

Did you know that you can get up to 20% more oxygen when you breathe through your nose (in comparison to your mouth)?

I think it’d be good for us to explore this now, as a lot of grounding/soothing techniques work best when you’re breathing efficiently.

This video covers some amazing tips and explanations around improving your everyday breathing, I really recommend watching it: 5 Ways To Improve Your Breathing with James Nestor

Here’s some key points mentioned in the video:

  • Your nose filters through toxins and other components and can retain more oxygen than breathing through your mouth over time.
  • The way we breathe can impact our body’s circulation, digestion, heart rate, lung capacity, energy levels, longevity, etc.
  • The act of breathing through our mouth regularly can put stress on our body, and signal to our brain that we’re in ‘survival’ mode and need to be alert. Breathing through the mouth leads to over breathing, which can tire the body and contribute to low energy levels.
  • Whereas breathing through your nose adds extra pressure & resistance to our breath which is essential in calming and regulating our system.
  • Chronic ailments such as anxiety, asthma, allergies, etc., have been linked to the way we breathe – it’s been particularly linked to ‘over breathing’, which stresses the body.
  • When you inhale, your heart increases. When you exhale, your heart rate decreases.

If you don’t already breathe in and out of your nose throughout the day, it can be a good habit to start practising.

For some people, there are times when exhaling through the mouth instead is safer/preferred, such as if you have nasal congestion/obstructions. When individuals experience anxiety and/or panic attacks, we often turn to breathing exercises, and it can be difficult to exhale through your nose in these states – feel free to exhale through your mouth until you feel calm/steady enough to exhale through your nose.

The 4-7-8 method is a common breathing tool used to help sleep and calm the body. It involves inhaling for 4 counts, holding for 7 and then exhaling for 8. If you're a beginner or find that 4-7-8 is too hard, you can start with a smaller ratio and build your way up - e.g. 2-3-4: inhale for 2, hold for 3, exhale for 4.

Questions for you:

  • Do you find that you breathe more through your nose or mouth?
  • What's your go-to breathing technique?
  • Also for those who have used finch - have you tried the breathing tools on the app, and how'd you find it? Are there other apps you've found useful for breathing techniques?

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Important topic @rav3n thank you

I have consciously worked on breathing since the 1970s, meditation, sport, swimming, singing, and now on a wind instrument.

I appreciate your caveat that at times nose breathing is not possible. All practices have their limitations. I am not an app person, so not on finch.

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Hi @rav3n

I find I breathe through my mouth a lot more than my nose.

Sometimes I use breathing to calm myself down.

If I do I use something called 'boxed breathing'. What I like about it is I can use it anywhere, especially if I wake up from a nightmare.

I did find an app that used breathing, but I had to pay for it so didn't use it.

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Love this @rav3n! Really interesting to read some of this info, especially that we get more oxygen when breathing through the nose. I knew it was better to breath through the nose when exercising but didn't realise it made that much of a difference!

I use box breathing too @Snowie especially when I'm driving and feeling a bit anxious (I can be an anxious driver) or when I can't get to sleep, or sometimes I'll use a technique like the 4-7-8 one when I really need to calm myself

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@Ru-bee

I tend to breathe through my nose mostly.

I dont really use breathing techniques, I find they make me more stressed or anxious. It has a similar effect on me as guiding meditation. I dislike counting my breaths especially, I tend to count a lot of things and find counting my inhales and exhales stress inducing.

For me, when I need to anchor myself with my breath, I focus on sensations, active breathing, awareness, and slowly slowing the pace I breathe. It helped me far more than any formalised process or regiment. Too many rules about what I had to be doing to relax, rather than listening to my body and tuning in to it, distracted me from the whole process of becoming aware of myself and my feelings.

I found just being gentle, closing my eyes briefly and just letting myself breathe, not controlling or judging it, more helpful to calm me, but that work for everyone.

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