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Tarmac_6Senior Contributor
I am 20 years old and never had a boyfriend or really have anyone show any serious romantic attention towards me. I don’t know how to get past the lonely feeling I have. I so scared I’m going to end up alone and I don’t really know how to accept that. Does anyone have any tips for finding someone or reasons why I might not be?
In response to: Loneliness
Lonely_SoulContributor
@tyme
I actually rejoined the forum again. I've just blocked the members who were quite hurtful to me.
How have you been?
In response to: Re: Loneliness
tymeModerator
Hey @Lonely_Soul ,
Sorry to hear that you've had to block members who have been hurtful to you. If you have any issues, please feel free to email us at team@saneforums.org so we can see how to best support you.
I've been pretty okay otherwise. What about yourself?
In response to: Re: Loneliness
Lonely_SoulContributor
I've been awful. I ended up deleting my account on that platform. I feel hurt and unheard and indignant. I feel awful. I'm not okay.
In response to: Re: Loneliness
AuntGlowModerator
Hello @Lonely_Soul,
I am so sorry to hear you had an uncomfortable experience on the forums - we never want our community members to feel hurt or unheard, it's so important to us that you're feeling supported and welcomed. I know @tyme has left you with an email address you can contact for more direct support, but what else can I do tonight to help you feel most supported? And what would help things to feel more comfortable on the forums right now? 💛
In response to: Re: Loneliness
Lonely_SoulContributor
this forum is fine. I was talking about another forum [edited by moderator].
I'm not okay. I feel very upset and awful. I haven't been able to study (even though I have final uni exams coming up next week), eat or just experience I willingness to continue living on for the past two days. I have been told that I am disrespectful and 'bully' by many many members on a social platform for giving advice to someone on a social platform that they should try to understand another person's perspective before expressing their own on the matter so that the person doesn't feel misunderstood. I ended up deleting my account. Prior to deleting my account, I made a post saying how I'm crying badly whilst hiding in the bathroom and I would like some support even if it is just hugging emojis or hearts....but despite this the members who said I was disrespectful provided no support. It almost seems like their support is dependent on 'the side' they take rather then non-discriminatingly providing support for those in need. I hate such selective support - it's f ing toxic as h3ll.
In response to: Re: Loneliness
AuntGlowModerator
Thank you for clarifying @Lonely_Soul. It sounds like being on this forum has been extremely overwhelming for you. It would be hard to simply let this experience go and be okay, your feelings are very understandable. Feeling unsupported or misunderstood is painful. 💛
You're right, everyone deserves support and I am glad you are still reaching out, that takes a lot of courage.Have you brought this occurance up with the organisation directly? (I have removed the name as per our guidelines ☺️.) I am just thinking that it could be helpful for them to know and work towards supporting you properly?
I know that you mentioned an unwillingness to continue living as well, and I want to check-in on your safety tonight. Just responding to this and letting me know if you are safe or needing more support is enough. Talk soon. ☺️
In response to: Re: Loneliness
Lonely_SoulContributor
Hi,
I have let the organisation know before in the past cause this is not the first time it has happened. I have given up on having hopes in them though. It's really frustrating since they don't respond in a timely manner.
I'm safe - I'm just extremely upset. The group of members on the platform has made me feel like I'm a horrible person.
In response to: Re: Loneliness
RiverSealModerator
Thanks for letting us know that you are safe @Lonely_Soul! I'm glad that you have found the SANE Forums and hope and expect that you will feel comfortable here in the community.
I'm sure you are not a horrible person and sometimes it's hard not to take on what other people say about us but we can overcome those thoughts if we practice positive thinking or use positive affirmations. New experiences can reframe our thinking too and hopefully you have some new positive experiences here with your peers.
Take care RiverSeal ❤️
In response to: Re: Loneliness
tymeModerator
Hope you're okay @Lonely_Soul
Hope you have a better day tomorrow.
In response to: Re: Loneliness
tymeModerator
How's everything going @Lonely_Soul ?
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