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my therapist yelled at me

my therapist yelled at me

My therapist told me there were only 2 reasons I could email them - 1) if I was feeling unsafe 2) rescheduling sessions/format of session

I replied and said okay, no more emails, but I said I could think of other situations where email was required, because some admin, like requesting info etc - needs to be done in writing

I didn't check, but apparantly he sent me a long, dysregulated email in response.
He then called me ( i didn't answer)

He called me an hour later ( i didn't answer).

Finally I thought, why is he calling me - he never does that? So I called back.


He answers (no greeting) - Yes, Eternalflower - and launches into an aggressive, threatening tirade, berating me - for

1) annoying him when he asked me to stop emailng him

2) also NOT emailing him when I had an attempt on my life last week

3) Going too extreme now and stopping email entirely - which he never said - he said only REASONABLE emails and when I'm unsafe

4) saying all drs are taught that they don't correspond with patients except in emergency

5) when i said I know my GP and I do correspond outside of sessions and so do other professionals i've worked with in the last few years, and all drs are different in my view -

6) he said if there's some wacky dr who doesn't keep the rules i shouldn't compare him to them, and he's told me to report such drs to AHPRA

7) asked me the name of these Drs and then added, "if they even exist"

😎 generally insulted me, saying i'm "rewriting the narrative" "playing games" etc

9) screamed at me violently for 28 minutes straight

10) asked for a written apology ?

yada yada yada

so yeah

therapy sucks ya'll and so does humanity.

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@EternalFlower Oh no! I'm so sorry, I hope you're managing, good on you for reaching out, have you got someone with you for support?

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hi @Former-Member I'm a little stuck atm in it but i feel okay

i am really in need of help but not getting it and sometimes i'm feeling more at risk, SH, SI -

I breathe in...

Disctractions help but the nights are hard, so many triggering and extreme thoughts and i still see the dr coz I feel I have nowhere else...

Waiting on a hospital admission asap

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@EternalFlower Don't be afraid to contact any of the phone numbers listed here if things get worse. Don't feel guilty for indulging in pleasurable distractions either, I know it can be easier said than done at times, but the important thing is that you're doing what you can to stay and work through these difficult times.

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@Jynx I saw you recently posted in another thread, just thought I'd tag you here if you can give any further tips

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Thank you @Former-Member for being kind and proactive to help out. I appreciate it.

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@EternalFlower You're more than welcome, I've been there myself, so you have my sympathy.

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Aww ty for the tag @Former-Member 😊

Hey @EternalFlower how are things going for you today hun? Sorry to hear it's a rough slog for you hun! Really hard when things come crashing down after a delay hey.

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hey @Jynx @Former-Member @Ru-bee @Appleblossom @Glisten

thanks for your support here

i forgave the therapist, as a user here said it was big of him to apologise - but he went on to do it more and more 😞

i got really crazy texts as well, callng me names and a liar

my sister says to save the texts 😞 he apologised again for the texts and said it wasn't fair to call me a liar but sometimes i speak in roundabout ways, which he finds not 100 percent truthful.

normal text to receive from a CONSULTANT PSYCHIATRIST?

so angry and hurt

i left spectrum to work with this silly man. Silly and small and shouldn't be allowed near women or vulnerable people.

It's good to apologise, but not okay to scream at ppl. I can only imagine the way these people justify their behaviour while framing the patient as the problem 😞

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Hey @EternalFlower

This does not sound like appropriate behaviour from your psychiatrist. I would think that if they were feeling that this was something that needed to be addressed they should have done it in person during an appointment as it's quite a delicate conversation to have.

I agree with your sister about saving the texts, as well as any other record of him behaving in a similar way.

Sorry that you're going through this

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trigger warning: abuse

Ok EternalFlwoer. I have reflected further and yes I will agree I was being somewhat unfair saying you were 'lying' and I will apologize for this. But there is no question you communicate as you say in 'roundabout' ways or as I say with more accuracy you 'equivocate' which while not black and white lying is nevertheless a shade of grey in the direction of dishonesty. And that's what I was reacting to. The rest of my thoughts remain same as yesterday. I honestly don't believe I can assist you as a psychiatrist psychotherapist for all the reasons I have already said. I took you on as a patient recommended as suitable for psychodynamic psychotherapy in good faith as suggested by Dr. A from ABC but enough time has passed and based on my own observations this is just not the case.

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