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my therapist yelled at me

my therapist yelled at me

My therapist told me there were only 2 reasons I could email them - 1) if I was feeling unsafe 2) rescheduling sessions/format of session

I replied and said okay, no more emails, but I said I could think of other situations where email was required, because some admin, like requesting info etc - needs to be done in writing

I didn't check, but apparantly he sent me a long, dysregulated email in response.
He then called me ( i didn't answer)

He called me an hour later ( i didn't answer).

Finally I thought, why is he calling me - he never does that? So I called back.


He answers (no greeting) - Yes, Eternalflower - and launches into an aggressive, threatening tirade, berating me - for

1) annoying him when he asked me to stop emailng him

2) also NOT emailing him when I had an attempt on my life last week

3) Going too extreme now and stopping email entirely - which he never said - he said only REASONABLE emails and when I'm unsafe

4) saying all drs are taught that they don't correspond with patients except in emergency

5) when i said I know my GP and I do correspond outside of sessions and so do other professionals i've worked with in the last few years, and all drs are different in my view -

6) he said if there's some wacky dr who doesn't keep the rules i shouldn't compare him to them, and he's told me to report such drs to AHPRA

7) asked me the name of these Drs and then added, "if they even exist"

😎 generally insulted me, saying i'm "rewriting the narrative" "playing games" etc

9) screamed at me violently for 28 minutes straight

10) asked for a written apology ?

yada yada yada

so yeah

therapy sucks ya'll and so does humanity.

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Re: my therapist yelled at me

hi @Ru-bee i felt not so safe over the weekend (although i'm okay now) after a barrage of abusive texts from him

he said that my messages were "rubbish" "nonsense" "more lies"

"i cannot work with a patient who lies"

and told me i need custodial care

all sorts of names, one after the other, i feel really distressed unfortunately. I feel like abuse can never be condoned 😞

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Re: my therapist yelled at me

@Ru-bee hi Ru- bee 😞 i'm not doing too well but had a support worker come and spend time with me. I have a new Dr.


This old Dr has really hurt me and made me feel so sad 😞

I feel unsafe in my skin at times, but i also feel i just need to get through the next day, and see what comes.

I think he might call me again to scream at me. He's done it before. I am prepared this time. I am not going to let him bully me a second time.

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Re: my therapist yelled at me

@EternalFlower It all sounds very unprofessional. Surely he will stop initiating contact now that you are not his client?

You really don’t have to accept abuse.


How is it with your support worker?

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Re: my therapist yelled at me

@Appleblossom im away at the moment, so i have a new support worker in my state

you were quite right initially that it was abuse, and unacceptable.

I am shaken that someone would talk to me that way, but also ashamed, that i let such a person into my life.

i am ashamed and hurt by those who advised me to keep seeing him 😞 including my case manager, who told me repair is something I need to work on. I wish I had a safe home and person to hold my hand through this all.


I have a great support worker, and in my new state where i am now i have found someone via an app, who is young, bubbly , and up for a chat. She's been hanging out a bit, but doesn't know much about mental health, which is okay.

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@EternalFlower

I just have a long lived experience for myself and family members (55 years) so been watching the field for a long while, plus trainings over 30 years. A lot of the time I didn’t know exactly what was going on, so I kept learning. Overall, I am no longer impressed by many paid practitioners. Though, hip hip hooray for the good ones.

Yep, had to put up with “ the badly behaved psychiatrist “ yesterday. It’s an ongoing theme, and I am trying to learn from it to be more steely, when she is gratuitous or disingenuous with her narcissism and attention seeking.

Roundabout thinking… can be avoidance and protective. If the therapist is asking black and white questions that are too invasive for the level of trust … then it is reasonable to deflect a little. Also some circumstances are too complex for blunt interrogation. We all have the right to shield or veil ourselves when needed.

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