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my therapist yelled at me

my therapist yelled at me

My therapist told me there were only 2 reasons I could email them - 1) if I was feeling unsafe 2) rescheduling sessions/format of session

I replied and said okay, no more emails, but I said I could think of other situations where email was required, because some admin, like requesting info etc - needs to be done in writing

I didn't check, but apparantly he sent me a long, dysregulated email in response.
He then called me ( i didn't answer)

He called me an hour later ( i didn't answer).

Finally I thought, why is he calling me - he never does that? So I called back.


He answers (no greeting) - Yes, Eternalflower - and launches into an aggressive, threatening tirade, berating me - for

1) annoying him when he asked me to stop emailng him

2) also NOT emailing him when I had an attempt on my life last week

3) Going too extreme now and stopping email entirely - which he never said - he said only REASONABLE emails and when I'm unsafe

4) saying all drs are taught that they don't correspond with patients except in emergency

5) when i said I know my GP and I do correspond outside of sessions and so do other professionals i've worked with in the last few years, and all drs are different in my view -

6) he said if there's some wacky dr who doesn't keep the rules i shouldn't compare him to them, and he's told me to report such drs to AHPRA

7) asked me the name of these Drs and then added, "if they even exist"

😎 generally insulted me, saying i'm "rewriting the narrative" "playing games" etc

9) screamed at me violently for 28 minutes straight

10) asked for a written apology ?

yada yada yada

so yeah

therapy sucks ya'll and so does humanity.

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Hey @EternalFlower ,

I'm sorry to hear about what happened. It sounds incredibly difficult. What do you think would be helpful at this time? Is there anything we can do to make it easier for you?

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@EternalFlower he can’t relate to you and he knows it. He’s behaviour is reprehensible.

Trauma and abuse survivors are screaming for lived experience therapists who are neurodivergent.

Your therapist is an obsolete model of what therapists use to be.

He needs to retire asap.

Hope the door 🚪 doesn’t hit him on the way out.

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hi @tyme i don't know what to do because i am being kicked out of case management so that I can focus on therapy with this guy and I doubt they'll care that i don't like him or feel safe after he screamed at me.


I hope they believe me.

I will tell them

I need to almost escape the country as I feel so empty and like there's nowehre to turn

hi @Glisten

I strongly agree with you on both points - re neurodivergence and lived experience

I believe therapists should also be vulnerable and imperfect and lean into it rather than try control us and lecture us. Why would any trauma survivor be okay with a MALE OLDER THAN THEM

screaming at them unprovoked for 28 minutes over the phone.


He called me twice throughout the day to insist i respond - and had apprantly also emailed me requesting all sorts of penance and apology from me

No no no no no no

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my GP responded and told me I can only email, also for 2 reasons, altough slightly different parameters.

He was very clear I can only email him if

1) i want to

2) i feel like it.

we laughed and i guess it took me out of it for a bit

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@avant-garde glad u found someone better although how uncomfortable that you found out 2 years later. 😞

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Hello @tyme @Appleblossom @Former-Member @avant-garde he apologised which I appreciated but I'm no linger going to see him.

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Good he apologised.

Good you are doing the best thing for Yourself.

Forum Solidarity

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I feel that's big for him to apologise. I'm sorry you had to go through this. I hope things get better for you. @EternalFlower

Take care

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His apology was decent but still annoying lol

He said he regretted it, acknowledged he yelled, retracted a lot of what he said, but said he did attempt to modulate his voice and wasn't screaming the whole time

He also said he thought my email had been mischievous.

So what lol

I felt he didnt modulate his voice but rather maintained a snippy, angry and unreasonable attitude and had his voice raised and angry for most if not all of the 28 minutes

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hi @Glisten @Appleblossom @Former-Member @avant-garde

bit ashamed but in the short term i still kind of need the therapist

after he apologised i did go back - although in my head it's kind of over

this has triggered a lot for me - like not trusting my own judgements

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