Mother's Day (TW)

@lonemushroom

You are not a burden

I know this isn't the mother's day you wanted and I know you wish you could do so much more, but you showed up and that says something.

We're here with you

@avant-garde those are beautiful gifts 💙

sending you and everyone on here lots of love. however you choose to spend today is valid 💙

Maybe the feelings are a sign of health and being connected to spirit on a symbolic day with so many associations. Maybe honouring them sometimes helps release them. Idk. I am reflective more than teary. I drove by my daughter's high school twice and sent her a prayer each time. Not a Christian prayer, a secular but sacred chant for love of her.

@MissGremlin @NightFury @lonemushroom @avant-garde @rav3n

The most important thing for me is to keep calm, creative and connected and not act on my more troubling thoughts. I am grateful that I have food and a bed and feeling accepted in a few communities.

@Appleblossom that's a beautiful thing to do for your daughter.

I've tried hard to keep myself distracted today, i spent most of it in bed but then had to rush around getting things organised for tomorrow. I'm now sitting on my bed seeing if I can do some colouring.

My daughter doesn't approve of Christianity but started a Sundays for atheists group. @MissGremlin she is pretty amazing but also confused. Motherhood in our family has been hugely complicated. Fosters, step, biological and in vitro.... And not being a mother.... and having no mother....Stretching all the definitions.

@Appleblossom everyone is different when it comes to their beliefs.

Things definitely sound complicated. Having 2 children myself that aren't with me, i can understand the stretching of definitions. We do the best with what we have, just sometimes it doesn't feel like it's good enough.

I always found mothers day and the days leading up to it sad. I hate walking through the shops because it's everywhere, I always felt like it was in my face. I lost my mum when I was young and I always feel like it was just a very loud reminder that I didn't have a mum.

I spent most of today in bed, I did go out briefly but I felt that took a toll on me. But I also feel stupid that it hurts so much after all this time. I miss her, and wish I had more time with her. Today was a sad day

Hey @Hazard357

Firstly, welcome to the forums, we're glad you found us.

Secondly, I'm sorry to hear about your mum, it mustn't have been easy growing up without her.

The constant reminders are difficult, seeing kids with their mums and all the decorations and gifts, it's not easy, but well done for getting through today.

Grief has its reminders and it sucks when it happens but they don't make you stupid, they make you human, they show that you have a beautiful heart.

💜

I usually make my own little plan for the day, something quiet and comforting, like a walk or my favorite meal. It helps to keep things simple and low-pressure.