avant-gardeSenior Contributor
Mother's Day (TW)
So Mother's Day is on Sunday and if you're anything like me, it's a day you typically dread.
Whether you're a mother yourself or you want to be a mum or your mum just wasn't great, it's a hard day isn't it?
You see all the beautiful gifts for mums in stores and it's hard, it's a day where you can and probably do, really miss your mum.
I'm a mother, my children are not on this earth, but I'm no less a mother.
I can't be a part of my mother's life because it would put me in danger. But every mother's Day and special event I go to a public phone box and send her a message telling her that I love her and I'm ok.
5 years ago I wrote this
I am different in that I embrace my inner child and she is very much a conscious entity in me, and well she surprised me today. She made me pancakes and even bought me a present, and no I'm not crazy, she is the part of me that got neglected as a child, she never got to be that and she sees me as her mum, which is the sweetest thing and I love her like I do each of my angels in heaven.
I am generally a grieving mess on mothers day, but it's something different today, she made me feel like a mum and I love her all the more for it.
I think she has started a new tradition today, and I think it might just be a healthy tradition.
That the world may forget you or not count you as a mother, because you may not have actually have a child on this earth, but I now believe we deserve to be celebrated too.
So yes, make yourself a nice breakfast like your kids would and get yourself a present, ask yourself 'what would they get me, something I wouldn't get myself' and take care of you!
You are no less a mother. The world may forget you, but don't forget yourself.
This tradition I am glad to say has carried on, even when I was homeless, to love myself as they would have loved me.
Yes I miss my mum on mother's Day and throughout the year, but do something she would have enjoyed and remember her in that moment, in the moments that she behaved like a mother.
Make space for her memory and make space for your grief.
@Ru-bee @RiverSeal @Jynx @rav3n @tyme
