Mother's Day (TW)

Hey @avant-garde, thanks for sharing your experiences with Mother's Day and starting such an important discussion that I'm sure many Members will relate. Thank you RiverSeal

Thank you for this post its definetly relatable ,I have had a rocky relationship with my mum after in particular after my father passed many years ago ,but in saying that things have improoved in recent years ,so now I would say as Im in my 30s mothers day is a reminder of how Im not a Mother as yet and it is something that really bothers me so much cause its something I wish for but of course without a relationship its sadly not on the cards currently

@avant-garde thankyou for sharing. I love how you started this little tradition for yourself and you continue it today. Mothers day is very bitter-sweet for me so usually a day filled with lots of emotions.

As always be gentle with yourself and sending you hugs, you matter and you are valued ❤️.

Gentle hugs @avant-garde

It is good you posted for your personal self, and the general good... Everyone has been born, of a mother though in vitro.. changes that a little.

It's a hugely triggering day for me.

@RiverSeal @LostAngel @MissGremlin

@avant-garde I hear you!

I generally have...what some would call a negative view of Mother's Day. It's never been a day of fuss in our family and it's always one that's poorly organised and last minute. It's always stressful and my own Mum is difficult to please when it comes to buying something for her.

I'm not a mother, but I do like to take the time to acknowledge my two Grandmothers and their role in raising me. I feel kind of strange on Mother's Day, uncertain of how to actually and how to be, uncertain of what to say or how to acknowledge it with my Mum.

I really like the way you choose to spend Mother's Day. It's rather beautiful and special.

Really important topic @avant-garde thanks for starting this thread, and for sharing your journey. I found your writing from 5 years ago quite moving, as that sort of journey of gentle internal re-parenting is close to home for me.

I hope this can be a safe port of call for all who feel a lil lost at sea whenever Mother's Day rolls around 🌊⚓💜

I agree @Jynx a very important topic @avant-garde - so thanks for posting

I hope you have some self-care planned for the day

Many people's mothers have passed away etc etc

thanks for creating this space @avant-garde my relationship with my mother is confusing and complicated, which i'm sure a lot of other members can relate to.

really love how you choose to celebrate your mother's day 💙

@rav3n @avant-garde @Jynx @Oaktree

To me, it’s a day not just to celebrate mothers (whether they be birth, foster or through adoption), but a day to reflect on and celebrate all female family ancestors who had an impact on one’s life.

All the women that had an impact on my life are no longer living. Aunts, Grandmothers especially. I celebrate the positive impact these ladies had on my life and remember them by placing flowers on each of their graves.

day full of mixed emotions due to missing them to remembering the fun times shared and the love they gave me

What I find difficult about mother's Day and other family oriented holidays isn't so much the day itself which is sad and painful enough, but the uncertainty around whether people at church will ask "so are you going to go and see..."

The assumption that I'm not a mother or that I have a mother to visit and be with us probably one of the most painful ones.