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Talking through trauma and PTSD

Tillogram

Tillogram

I am wondering if anyone has any strategies that have helped them to banish the “Not Good Enough” thoughts.

It is apparently a common problem for those with childhood trauma (likely other things as well).

I think I try pretty hard to surmount this feeling. I have completed university degrees, I have worked pretty much continuously from age 14yo. I try to participate in sport and different other activities. I volunteer.

Maybe “doing things” is not the correct strategy (although it does act as a distraction).

I still think I am not good enough.

@tyme @Jynx @Appleblossom @Shaz51 @Dimity

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Oh that's good for you then @tyme if there's two of you and good for us!

Yes I think the getting away part will be really good. It will help me to get a bit of space in my brain!

I don't have notifications on for my email or anything normally, so I won't know until I log back on again!

It will be a different land, but all of the oceans join together. I will be on, near and probably in saltwater.

I want to take in the beauty and the history etc, but mainly I don't want to spoil the opportunity with negative thoughts.

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Oh that's great if you managed to solve at least one problem @NightFury by fixing your fire door handle. And you did it yourself - so doubly good. And cheap solution!

It's 14 degrees here, but it was 5 when I got out of bed this morning.

Just waiting for @Shaz51 to comment on that!!

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Hi @Shaz51 how are things with you? Good I hope

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Hi @Shaz51 I am away fir about 3 weeks.

I am watching NSW beating Qld in the rugby league state of origin

That's good to get some trees trimmed, do you get your hair trimmed or coloured or ?

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23 degrees here tonight @Till23 , @tyme , @NightFury

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Hair trimmed and highlights put in this time instead of a colour @Till23

In response to: Tillogram

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Hi @tyme @Till23 @Shaz51 @AuntGlow @NightFury

thanks for including me. I love your baby dahlias @Shaz51 - did you say you grew them from seed? I’m impressed.

I feel a bit brain foggy catching up with some of the conversation… and it does look like it’s an intimate one, so thanks for having me. I’ve floated around the forums on and off and have sometimes found it a little hard to find somewhere to land.
But what I meant to say was if I get mixed up about who’s doing what and when, I’ll hope to catch up.

If you haven’t left yet for what sounds like an amazing trip @Till23, travel safely and I hope you can find the quiet space to breathe and recharge between people.
It’s so interesting to hear you talk about peer work. I’d barely heard of it until last year when I had my ‘own’ peer worker to work with me. And now as time passes it interests me more.
I’ve also loved hearing about you studying, @NightFury. I’m also studying now and feel in company with you - I think yours is mental health related, and mine is, too.

Sorry, big soliloquy. I hope you all have a restful night. 😌

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Don't mock me... but I don't actually know what dahlias look like... I'm going to look it up now. I know they are flowers though @Semly @Shaz51

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Hi @Semly I've seen your around, but don't think we've had a chat up until now. Lovely to meet you.

Yes, I am trying to study Child and Adolescent Mental Health, but I'm hitting a few pot holes and finding it overwhelming. What are you studying?

In response to: Tillogram

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Hi @AuntGlow thanks for your response. Unfortunately for you though, my last night here will be Sunday night.

Although you may not be on between now and then.

If that is the case, thanks so much for the chats and your support since you started on the forums. It has been very helpful and I have learnt many things, which I have from all of the mods as well as the other forum members.

The biggest one, I think, is to try and give yourself the compassion that you would extend to others.

This is very hard for me to do due to negative messaging from others and society initially and then I interanlised it and it's been coming from me!

But I understand that thinking negatively is not going to make things better for me.

You've slotted right in to this forums moderating and support gig magnificently

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