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Talking through trauma and PTSD

Tillogram

Tillogram

I am wondering if anyone has any strategies that have helped them to banish the “Not Good Enough” thoughts.

It is apparently a common problem for those with childhood trauma (likely other things as well).

I think I try pretty hard to surmount this feeling. I have completed university degrees, I have worked pretty much continuously from age 14yo. I try to participate in sport and different other activities. I volunteer.

Maybe “doing things” is not the correct strategy (although it does act as a distraction).

I still think I am not good enough.

@tyme @Jynx @Appleblossom @Shaz51 @Dimity

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@Shaz51 Absolutely. What helps you work through these thoughts?

Also, hello from earlier - sorry for my delay! 💛

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@Till23 Just popping in. Saw you mentioned your dog is very sick. Sending gentle thoughts as you do what you have to do.

love to talk about your sciencey side.

I too find social engagement and volunteering important in dealing with my mental health. I am also interested in advocacy. Been trying to do it in my way, through most of my time on the forums.

In response to: Tillogram

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Thanks @AuntGlow I shall miss you the next two evenings.

I know that people are caught up in their own lives and that not everything that they do is about me.

The problem about being alone is that you don't have people to share and discuss things with to try to rationalise things and also feel as though you are an OK person.

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I will miss you too @Till23 😊

I understand, those thoughts are louder for me when I am alone too. I hope you're feeling a bit better after chatting tonight.

Sleep well, and talk soon✨

In response to: Tillogram

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I think I worry to a ridiculous degree and it really imapcts on my life and my MH @Shaz51

I know everyone does worry about these things but I seem to let if affect me a lot. You are a kind gentle person @Shaz51 I can't imagine you saying or doing anything too little or too much. I think you'd be in the goldilocks zone!

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Thanks @Appleblossom tomorrow is going to be a hard day. The decision about my dog is so hard. It will be three death's of those very close to me in 3 years. My first dog, my father and now my second (and last) dog. It's going to be a very empty house.

I think important things for me are nature and having a purpose are the most important things. Exercise and social engagement are also important. For me, I would put volunteering and advocacy under purpose.

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Hey @tyme welcome back. Hope you had a good time away. You've probably logged back off as you've got a million things to do I'm sure.

It's a hard day for me today because my dog is having his last little walk and vet visit shortly. Unfortunately the weather is not very good, but we had a small stroll and I gave him a little bit of his favourites - real chicken and beef and some little treats and a little bit of milk to drink. We sat outside for a while on the lounge on the verandah, with him on my lap and took some last selfies of us. Unfortunately he is deaf now so he couldn't hear me, but he had a good look around his territory, while relaxing on my lap.

@AuntGlow

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Hey @Till23 just wanted to pop by to say that I've been thinking about you and your sweet dog today. What a wonderful gift to be able to give him all of his favourite things today with his favourite person, knowing that he's loved 💜

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Sending tender hugs 🫂 to you @Till23

@tyme Is not quite back yet , just dropping in 🥰

Hello @Ru-bee , @AuntGlow

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Virtually embracing you and your pup @Till23 .. May he rest easy.

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