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Acceptance is hard work

Acceptance is hard work

Before I start, I just want to say…that I don’t feel comfortable in this space. It’s hard to be in the trauma and PTSD forum, but for me at the moment, I’m working through a level of acceptance.

I don’t have a diagnosis, I’ve never spoken to or seen a counsellor, or received any kind of mental health support. I have a very good friend who works in a healing space and has seen and experienced the impact my mental health and my triggers has on me. She has a lived experience of CPTSD and she knows a little of my story. She has helped me with resources and just by being a wonderful safe space for me to talk about what I’m experiencing. She suggested that perhaps, I could be experiencing the symptoms of CPTSD.

I completed a self-referral for the guided recovery program and have started that process. It has me straddling the line of acceptance. I have always had “anxiety” and have experienced panic attacks and flash backs and all of those good things. My first memories of my anxiety was when I was a teenager. But now, I accept that it isn’t entirely accurate.

My brain’s blocked out some of my memories of what happened to me. Logically, I know that it happened, but it was as if…if I couldn’t remember it all, then maybe I could live with doubt and maybe that doubt was permission to say…”you know what? Maybe It’s not real.” And if it didn’t really happen, then I don’t have CPTSD.

I will also acknowledge that I have been fairly avoidant with seeking help for a number of reasons, but one of those reasons is because I don’t want to talk about/acknowledge that what happened, actually happened.

I’m in a space at the moment where I know that the first step for me is actually owning it and accepting it. But, that makes me feel very vulnerable, and the acceptance feels “slippery,” I can’t quite wrap my head around it, as if a part of me is protecting me from it, if that makes sense.

Last year, a friend (who is no longer a friend) told me in an argument that I use my anxiety “as an excuse” and maybe she’s right - but not in the context she meant it. I’ve used my anxiety as an excuse not to acknowledge that there’s something else behind it. Is acceptance something that you let happen organically as you move through life, and counselling and all the processes? Or is this something that you push yourself through, knowing that it’s an important step? How do you work through this process of arriving at acceptance on multiple levels?

@Jynx @rav3n @tyme and I don’t know who else to tag, I’m sorry.

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I do. @tyme I don't really want to attend class tonight, I'm just not feeling it.

Thank you for digging up those links, I appreciate it.

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Are they the sorta classes where if you attend, great, but if you don't, it's okay and you can watch the recording later? @NightFury

(Even if they prefer you attend the classes)?

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I tried to go to class and technology got the better of me. @tyme I couldn't get any sound. So, I gave up and I'm now curled up in bed.

They don't penalise you for non-attendance.

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Maybe it just wasn't meant to be? @NightFury

That's okay 🙂

Go easy hun

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Disconnected is a tricky place to be in, hey? @NightFury

What do you think is making it hard to feel connected to yourself at the moment? 🫶

It sounds like your mind is still processing this change and that is completely okay. Nerves are also very normal.

Have you explored some writing today?

I was thinking, maybe you could write about the dreams you have been having? 💛

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Hi @AuntGlow not just disconnected from myself but from others too. It's a hard place to be in.

Last night was a tough one for me. I jist...felt so down.

I haven't done any writing yet today. I've been asked to play bowls for the ladies team. They were short and needed someone late notice. We won't finish until after 3.

I could write/journal about the dreams.

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It is a hard place to be in. @NightFury

I find disconnection comes up for me when I have been masking a lot, I am burnt out, or when I haven't been able to connect to a sense of safety in body. Does that resonate with you at all? 🤔

I am sorry you are feeling so down... what can I do to help?

Maybe bowls will help with reconnecting?

Let me know how you go. 🥰

And if you ever feel like sharing bits of your writing, I would love to read them!

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Maybe it has to do with not being able to find a sense of safety in my body @AuntGlow. I've been feeling really rocky here, like I'm saying and doing things wrong. And everything is in the process of changing in relation to work. I don't feel like I have people around me at the moment, or people to catch me. I don't know what's going on support wise for me, or what to do about it. I guess it's just a sense and a fear of being alone. And then I get in the headspace where I blame myself.

I'm not sure what you can do to help. Is there a way to check whether and when I'm elligible again for SANE's Guided Recovery? You being here and checking in helps.

We lost bowls by 1 shot.

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Hiya @NightFury 😊

First off -


@NightFury wrote:

I'm not sure what you can do to help. Is there a way to check whether and when I'm elligible again for SANE's Guided Recovery? You being here and checking in helps.


We aren't yet ready to be taking on new participants, unfortunately we haven't got a date yet as to when it will be open - so feel free to keep checking back here, and we will hopefully be able to update everyone once it launches. If you were part of the Guided Recovery program, there will be a waiting period before you're able to sign up for Recovery Club - I am pretty sure it is 6 months since you finished - if that is relevant to you!

To be eligible, you just need to be 18+ years old, living in Aus, and have access to the internet, so I believe you check all those boxes!! 😉


@NightFury wrote:

Sounds like some good ideas there for a thread @Jynx I was thinking that maybe...it could be like...a creative writing thread, with a writing prompt a week...or something?Maybe we could pick a few of those to share in the newsletters? I don't know if anyone would be interested.


I reckon there might be quite a few people interested - like @creative_writer haha 💜

Would you want to kick this off? Only if you're comfortable to do so. More than happy to assist or collaborate or whatever you need 😉

And PS that sucks about losing by 1 shot!! Ach, alas! 😓

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Thanks @Jynx I'm already in the Recovery Club and have checked out the new portal and stuff. I'm just struggling to find support at the moment. So, was just asking maybe as a possible temporary solution to that, but it's okay.

I think we have a few people here who dabble in writing. I'm happy to kick the thread off tomorrow.

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