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@MissGremlin @NightFury :support_button: 😅

Wish I could have supported ya posts from last night so you know I've seen them/am not ignoring y'all, but ahh well.

Anyway I hope you're both having an ok Sunday!!

I know I sound horrible saying it, but I'm kind of regretting asking them for dinner @MissGremlin

I found out during the week that part of the ADHD assessment paper work needs to be filled out by my parents, so I was going to talk to them about it...but I have since changed my mind...they don't know about my mental health challenges @Jynx

Hello @Jynx, that support button 😂.

My day has been a lazy one, I've got no energy and I just feel blah. I'm really weighing up my options here on what I should or need to do. I'm sorting out the colours to my diamond art set at the moment and I've got my music on.

How has your day been?

@NightFury i don't think it sounds horrible at all. I think it's hard cos you have come down unwell and that's taking a toll aswell.

That's a really tough one if they don't know about your mental health challenges. Is this something you could perhaps chat to a counsellor about sweet?

Maybe @MissGremlin it's a complicated one though.

@NightFury i understand sweet.

@NightFury oh wow, that sounds overwhelming, to say the least! Must have changed a bit since I got diagnosed in 2018... I did have to talk about how my 'symptoms' (I just hate calling them that. I prefer 'traits'. But I digress...) had been present since childhood, and that my Mum displays similar traits, but that was about it. Is there a possibility of chatting to them about whether you need your parents to fill it out, or whether there's another option? Cos like... not everyone speaks to/has parents, so there has to be backup options for when that isn't a possibility - surely!

I agree with @MissGremlin that it might be helpful to chat to one of your supports about a 'game plan' or something. It could help to have some resources to share with them - which, please hit me up for if you need some, cos I have oodles haha.

Also, I've had to 'come out' to my parents a few times (first as gay, then ADHD, then nonbinary... lol) and something I've learned is that their first reaction is NOT their 'full' or their most 'accurate' reaction. My parents went into a bit of shock each time, and did say some... not great things to me. After a couple of days once they'd had some time to process (and look through the resources I showed em) they were more able to be open and curious. Your mileage may vary of course, depending on your parents' beliefs and how they typically react to stuff.

Buuut...we typically get our ADHD from one or both of our parents so it's always a little interesting to see how they respond. I think for my mum (who I get mine from) her shock started to wane a lot more once I started pointing out all the traits to her and she just kept going 'oh that's like me!'

In any case, remember that this is your journey, and no one else gets to decide the pace or path you take 💜

@Jynx @MissGremlin I hope there's a possibility of chatting to them about whether I need my parents to fill out the form. It's not something I am willing to take to my parents, or even bring up in conversation with them. That's a real hard pass.

It could be helpful to chat about why, but that's a big trigger point for me.

Good evening @MissGremlin!

How was your weekend? 💖

Thank you for letting me know about work, it's helpful to have more understanding.

The pet volunteering sounds really wholesome - what does it entail exactly?

Absolutely - you and Avant seem to have that in common. And you both write beautifully.

I understand, sometimes we do just need to feel the heavy stuff fully so we can clear the way to access the lighter things.

Have you noticed a glimmer or two over the past couple of days? ✨

Hello @AuntGlow, before I go any further with this post please know I'm safe and I rang my doctor this morning but I'm waiting to hear back from him still. Please if anything in here needs to be edited or removed let me know, I don't want to get in trouble but I'm just trying to share what's happening for me currently.

Trigger warning!

I had a phone appointment with my counsellor this morning and she is being so supportive and is determined to find me the right support that will help me in the long term. She's not giving up on me which feels so strange for me cos I'm so used to being let down. I've been communicating with my friend aswell about what's happening for me.

@avant-garde