Battles

@MissGremlin

Sorry, you mentioned the vacuum again! Lucky my partner was working from home today and managed to get me our from under them bed with the broom! 😁

They really should know that sometimes it's just about listening to someone and validating them. They must teach that with these places, surely!? It's baffling to me that you could call someone on one of these lines and they can't seem to get that bit right. I have no idea... maybe due to the demand they're told not to do it... who knows.

Just keep in mind that the crisis lines aren't your only option. I know what you mean, but you have the forum here. It's not the same, but it is an option and it may help you to feel a little less hopeless to think of the crisis lines as one of your options. I know where getting very close to semantics here, but often the way we think about things can make a big different our outlook.

I think it's very common to feel like we're being a burden to people and dumping our problems on them. I still struggle so much with that! If it was a burden to someone here, then they just wouldn't reply. If someone does reply, then they are doing it because they care and they want to. To flip it, do you think people are dumping their troubles on you when you're writing a supportive reply to someone here? Do you feel burdened? I know it feels different, but this is how other people see it when we write about our own problems. And yes, i'm trying to convince myself of this as much as you right now. 😁 It takes a lot of work to learn to accept and even then it comes and goes. We need people to keep reminding us. So i'm writing this to remind us both.

How efficient of me... one long and wordy post and helping two people at once! 😁 Now I just have to go back under the bed... the neighbour is using the blower-vac!

@MJG017 at least she was nice enough to get you out and not just leave you there or just have fun poking you with the broom 😂.

Honestly who knows when it comes to the crisis lines. I want to lodge a complaint to the one that's limited my contact to once a day but I have no idea how to word it.

Yes I know i have here but not everything can be shared here, partly due to safety but also cos of the content of some of it.

It's funny how I kind of knew this part was coming, mainly cos I know you and I both think the same way. No I don't feel burdened by others sharing their problems, in fact I'm glad that they can and I'm always more than happy to help when they do. Keep trying to convince me and yourself and maybe one day we might believe it 😂.

Oh not the blower vac, quick run and hide 😂. Casper is sitting under my chair while I'm trying to paint, every now and then he tries to nibble on my toes 😂

@MissGremlin

I never said she didn't have a bit of fun poking me with the broom first! 😂

If you're not sure how to work the complaint, just ask chatgpt. It's what everyone does now... no brains needed anymore! 😁 Honestly though it's a great way to write something by just describing the situation and asking for a letter written for you.

That is a limitation of here, so there are advantages the crisis lines definitely have. It's just so unfortunate that there seems to be some people who seem to lack some basic support skills.

That is my goal. Whether i convince myself first or you, i'll take it as a win. Now i know you are sure i'll convince myself first and i think i'll convince you first 😄 I think we both agree it's going to take a lot of convincing either way. We just need to keep reminding each other, especially as nothing seems to be getting easier and it so quick for those old habits of withdrawing want to come back.

I'm sure the nibble on the toes is just to make sure you're still paying attention, or just to remind you he's there. Or you stepped in something he likes the taste of. 🤣

@MJG017 i can just picture it 😂.

I could never use chat gpt. I'll get around to trying to write something up eventually.

I'm not sure i can be convinced so you might have a real challenge on your hands there. Those old habits just won't seem to go away now matter how hard one tries.

Well my floor is clean so I haven't trodden on anything. I think he just likes to remind me that he is still there 😂.

@MissGremlin

I do like a challenge. Time isn't exactly on my side, so you could always just wait me out! 🤣 I've said before, that it's not always about being convinced. I very much doubt I ever will be at that stage. Those doubts and insecurities have just been there for far too long. It's just about questioning them, even just a little. Especially at the start. If i can get you to question them, i'm going to take it as a win for us both.

@MJG017 see now i think that i have to let you convince me cos otherwise that just wouldn't be fair 😂. Well i guess we will just have to see if you can get me to at least question them.

Isn't it bedtime yet? It really feels like today is just dragging on.

Hello @Jynx, how are you going?

Hey @MissGremlin @MJG017 just saying hi, hoping you are both ok.

If you'd rather have the thread to yourselves I understand

Cheers

Hello @Till23, how are you going?

You are more than welcome here 😊

Thanks @MissGremlin you are a very welcoming person and quite social on here chatting and supporting others.

I'm in a bit of a slump and not happy with myself about it.

I don't know if it's because I've done a fair bit over the last 3 weeks and then there's not a lot on this week or what is the cause.

How are you going? You've been not so good yourself I feel