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Life can be a Pain

Life can be a Pain

Hi @BlueBay@Zoe7@Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@utopia@oceangirl@TAB@Shaz51@PeppiPatty

I know there are more people I could tag but maybe I will think them up as I go along - actually I already have

I think I need my own thread - mostly my problem is chronic pain syndrome - I damaged my spine with the sporting excesses of my youth - a long time ago now - and I managed to rearrange it when I fell of my pushbike in a wind storm nearly 22 years ago and that seems a long time ago now but there is nothing they can do except treat the pain - and I do have Section 8 medication and I see a pain specialist

And the pain has been worse lately and wears me down and I get fed up and very tired -

I have issues with my mother as well - and although she died 2 years ago I still have bad times now and again - she was abusive and as well as I know myself and her this can get to me at times - and this is another reason I opened my own thread

Then there is TS - my Toxic Sister - she was under my skin for a while but not at the moment

So yesterday I felt so bad when I went to see the doctor about my back pain - and my pain specialist has cut my medication back several times over the last few years and she has gone too far - and I started to tell my doctor - yes - I cope with the pain better since my mother died - but it's driving me crackers atm and so are the memories of my mother

So that's it for now - I have had trouble opening this thread for some reason but now I have - I will run my own story - I would like to think I don't need to but yes - I do

You are all such wonderful supportive people - you are my soft place to land - that is so true

And anyone I have missed I will tag as I go along

Lots of hugs everyone

Dec

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Thanks @Zoe7 @Owlunar @Shaz51

I appreciate your warmth and inclusion.

Zoe your thoughtfulness and passion in teaching ...

Owlunar your wisdom and broad experience

I forgave my mother too, she had a lot to deal with, but she took some turns late in life that were betrayal to me and ensured division went on in the future of the family, not at all fair given her abandonment ... she played religious games of redemption ... also quoted some bible verse at me about families being divided ... when I had worked so hard for togetherness. My mother was not so acidic, but dishonest about the circumstances of our upbringing. I do not know all that my siblings endured with her, but I was called in to break up arguments sometimes, about which I think mother nursed a grudge against me for ... she had us pretend we were never in orphanges or wards of the state and my sister baulked at that. Also the doctors discharged my brother once to my place, which she hated. She was not that rational and if she had been more obviously mean and nasty I may never have kept trying for family unity.

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@Appleblossom @Shaz51 💚💚💚💚💚💚

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hello my forum mum @Owlunar , thinking of you lots today , hope you are ok xxx

@Zoe7 , @Appleblossom

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Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @Appleblossom

Here's Mumma Bear signing in - I hope all of you are reasonably well - I haven't read much tonight - I had a tough post to reply to and did - and thanks for your support Shaz - I needed that.

I had my fluvax today - I rang the pharmacy before I left to see if my script had been filled. It was in the process of being compounded. I went down to the compounding pharmacy to see if it was ready - it was being done - they were flat out with the process - public holidays cause bottlenecks like this - so I had the fluvax and went back to the pharmacy and waited - and waited - and the pain kept getting worse and I wished I had my medication with me.

Eventually of the girls working there offered to bring my medication to my home when she got off work - how wonderful - she lives a couple of streets away from me - so I was able to come home and lie down and rest - which was a relief - sometimes people really put themselves out there for us and it's worth mentioning.

And we had a beautiful day in Melbourne today - I love autumn.

I have to stop typing now - I sent an email to my cousin in Canada - it's a year since my uncle died - and time has really flown.

My shoulder is pretty sore though - so enough is enough

All the best to all of you

Mumma Bear

Owlunar

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@Owlunar I read that post you replied to and your response - what a guiding light you are Mumma Bear ...it was such an honest and caring reply.

I am sorry your shoulder is causing you pain at present but so grateful there are lovely people out there that really do care - so nice of that girl working at the pharmacy to bring your medication to you for you.

I hope you are remembering all the good times with your uncle at this time. Grief is such an unknown beast - it can hit us when we least expect it and for you I know this was a big loss - so be kind to yourself today and remember your uncle in your own way.

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Here's Mumma Bear signing in ---- awww I love this @Owlunar

hello @Zoe7 , @Appleblossom sending you hugs for today

no work today as mr shaz has a cold and it has been raining soo much for days

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@Shaz51 @Zoe7 @Appleblossom

Hi there - Mumma Bear's feathers are a little achy today - that is to be expected - I had to look up My Tributes to find the date my uncle died - ah yes - it is to be expected with one thing or another that I will be feeling a bit wiped out today - it's a public holiday so everyone can take it easy - hopefully.

One of my grandfather's was an Anzac - I went to the Dawn Service at the Shrine in Melbourne in 1993 - it was a memorable moment in my life - I will never forget a detail of it. I felt as if I was standing there for both my grandfathers as the dawn gradually grew in the sky - Venus was bright in the east. I was by myself - yet I felt part of the crowd that morning. It was wonderful.

Thanks for your supports re post - it means a lot - it is not easy to challenge anyone like that - we have discussed this subject obliquely - my decision it to challenge someone sometimes - not to make a habit of it - still - it needs to be said sometimes. It's not my first effort either - but your support is wonderful.

I can't type much today - but it is a wonderful day here today - I did my washing at least - and prepared my vegetables for dinner -

All the best for all of your today

Mumma Bear

Owlunar

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Those conversations are never easy @Owlunar but sometimes needed.

I have finished my path @Owlunar @Shaz51 but need to clean up. Having a rest before I do that then will have a much needed shower.

I used to go to the service in my home town but have not been for years. I used to go with my Mum but she has not been up to it the last few years. It is a special day - I believe it is our unofficial 'Australia Day' as all parts of our culture were represented equally in war and there was no distinction between race, colour, heritage - all fought alongside each other in equal measure and that is how society should be ...alas it is not but we can only continue to champion equality and equity for all.

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Dear @Owlunar

I am glad your pharmacy have a good supportive relationship with you.

Lovely to feel your warmth and read your calm guidance

and @Shaz51 @Zoe7

copied from other thread: I am utterly exhausted. Had a good day went to city with a small group and saw some of the ANZAC parade and went to a service for peace. Talked with some Airforce peep and they said it was Rosemary for ANZAC and poppy's for Remembrance day. So I trimmed the rosemary bush when I got home ... very easily lead I am... lol ... and made some tea ....and put some in a vase... I have been very physically active but had a few wakings through the nights, so need to hit the sack early.

Going to search for the moon, then bed.

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hugs @Appleblossom , @Zoe7 , @Owlunar 😍

no moon here @Appleblossom , still raining

i have a little problem arising with me being on the DSP and that is my husband has found Ebay more and more now @Jynx

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