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Life can be a Pain

Life can be a Pain

Hi @BlueBay@Zoe7@Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@utopia@oceangirl@TAB@Shaz51@PeppiPatty

I know there are more people I could tag but maybe I will think them up as I go along - actually I already have

I think I need my own thread - mostly my problem is chronic pain syndrome - I damaged my spine with the sporting excesses of my youth - a long time ago now - and I managed to rearrange it when I fell of my pushbike in a wind storm nearly 22 years ago and that seems a long time ago now but there is nothing they can do except treat the pain - and I do have Section 8 medication and I see a pain specialist

And the pain has been worse lately and wears me down and I get fed up and very tired -

I have issues with my mother as well - and although she died 2 years ago I still have bad times now and again - she was abusive and as well as I know myself and her this can get to me at times - and this is another reason I opened my own thread

Then there is TS - my Toxic Sister - she was under my skin for a while but not at the moment

So yesterday I felt so bad when I went to see the doctor about my back pain - and my pain specialist has cut my medication back several times over the last few years and she has gone too far - and I started to tell my doctor - yes - I cope with the pain better since my mother died - but it's driving me crackers atm and so are the memories of my mother

So that's it for now - I have had trouble opening this thread for some reason but now I have - I will run my own story - I would like to think I don't need to but yes - I do

You are all such wonderful supportive people - you are my soft place to land - that is so true

And anyone I have missed I will tag as I go along

Lots of hugs everyone

Dec

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HI @Owlunar

I'm staying at home mostly too. I am sorry to hear about your uncle- I think that who you are referring to but correct me if I am wrong.

I hope he is being well looked after.

I hope to talk to you soon.

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Thinking of you my friend @Owlunar

how are you?
hugs xxxooo

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Hi @BlueBay @oceangirl @Shaz51 @Decadian @Zoe7 @Emelia8 @Anastasia

I received an email from my cousin in Canada that my aunt died to day

It's sad news and I am really feeling the loss of a wonderful friend - but I also feel relieved that she is out of her suffering

I have sent my daughter a text - I don't feel like talking right now - I don't feel like writing a lot either

Whether I go to the funeral is not up for a question - I don't have a RAT kit though I have ordered some and I don't feel like exposing myself to COVID but I can watch it on ZOOM

Thanks everyone for your thoughts through these last weeks - waiting for bad news that must eventually arrive is not easy

Dec

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Not unexpected @Owlunar but still very hard. My uncle died on Monday so I can very much feel that grief, loss and pain myself right now. He didn't have a funeral nor any service - family respecting his wishes - but it does make it even harder to deal with. I am so glad you can watch your Aunty's service on zoom - not at all the same as being there though. Maybe make a corner of your home a reflective place for the time being - some cushions, candles, etc. and have your own private space to remember the love you had for your Aunty and all that she meant to you. Hugs and hugs dear Dec 💖😥

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Sending you lots of tender hugs my @Owlunar ❤❤❤

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I am so very sorry for your loss @Owlunar

it’s extremely hard not been able to go to the funeral.
sending you loving hugs and love 💕🤗

xxxooo

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I am really sorry for the loss of your wonderful friend, your Aunt @Owlunar . I know it has been expected for some time, but the loss will still be sorely felt. And you are right, the waiting for a known outcome, is often the hardest part. I am glad for your Aunt that she is now released from her suffering. Now it is the time for her loved ones to grieve.

Sorry that you will not be able to attend the funeral, but it is a risk for you that you do not need to take. Thankfully COVID has brought one thing to us which is of great comfort ... the ability to livestream funeral services. I am pretty sure we have all had the experience over the past 2 years of not being able to attend a funeral, but instead needing to watch via livestream. The system works very well. I have had two close family members who died during covid lockdowns, both of whom lived in WA. Both my father in law and my mother in law. It isn't the same as being there of course, but its a pretty good alternative. And it almost feels like you are there anyway, in my experience.

Its good to hear from you @Owlunar as I know you have been going through a very difficult period. Please take care of yourself and let us all know here if you need any extra support. Sending you much love and a big hug.

Emelia 🤗💕

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Thanks for your supportive messages

@Emelia8 @BlueBay @Shaz51 @Zoe7

It helps

Dec

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Dearest @Owlunar I'm so sorry 💔

My father is coming home tomorrow from palliative care in hospital to be with us till the end.

Mum and I will share the care.

A nurse will come each day for a hour 😭

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@Anastasia I am so sorry Hon. I had no idea what was going on for you. It is such a hard thing to deal with. I watched my Nan fade away in palliative care - she wanted to be home too to have her final hours but we could not get her there in time - I regret that but having that time to spend with her before she died was so precious - take every minute you can, do not let anything be left unsaid and savour the time you have left. Hugs and hugs and hugs sweetheart 💖💖💖

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