Life can be a Pain

@Owlunar Hey Dec sending you kind and caring wishes my friend. Lots of love peaxx

thinking of you lots @Owlunar ❤🧡💛💚💙💜💓💗💖

@Owlunar

Virtual Hugs to fill up your insides and for least pain.

You still made me smile with your descriptions.

I dont doubt you understand wots going on. SOmetimes medicos can be patronising, and sometimes they are good. Hope your respect you. Conservative Least harm sounds sensible to me. The shoulder is an intricate joint.

Gently Bently

Hi @Owlunar

Thank you for yesterdays update re your shoulder. It sounds bad, unpleasant, frustrating and an absolute pain to say the least.

I dont blame you for not opting for the surgical option. I was advised a year or two by both my orthopedic surgeon and my neurosurgeon that my best option for my back injury back in 1999 was surgery. The ortho suggested a spinal fusion and the neuro suggested a discectomy. I was so scared about doing either. I was not yet 40yo at the time and was afraid about all the worst-case scenarios. Of which there were many. I opted for conservative treatment ... lots of physio, anti inflams, suitable exercise program, learn way so as not to exacerbate things, etc. So I understand your choices in that regard, because I did the same for my injuries. I'll admit there have been times when I've unable to move without screaming in agony, that I've wished I had the surgery. But mostly, I'm happy with my decision. Especially since everything I've read recently, the latest best advice is to avoid surgery for most back injuries. It should be a last resort only.

Actually, given my own shoulder injuries and tendon damage, I suspect I may well have serious issues as I get a little older too. Certainly I have constant mild to moderate pain in both shoulders, and sometimes it flares up worse. But I do lots of exercises which is meant to keep things at bay, and hopefully thats the case. I have had injections in my shoulder in the past, and it worked a treat. Hopefully that will be the case for you too.

Ouch ... the maxi taxi bumpy ride sounds more like a Disneyland joy ride. I'm glad to hear that you were able to get yourself something for dinner at any rate, and that a good sleep Monday night helped with your distressing emotions. Shame about the messy kitchen, but I'm sure thats all sorted by now.

You're so right, and I have heard that before, old age is NOT for sissies or sooks. But there is definitely a place for entitlement for some sympathy and understanding. Good to see that you rewarded yourself with a good nourishing hot pot for your lunch yesterday. Dont you just love winter cooking! Soups, casseroles, hotpots .. throw it in a pot and let it do its thing. Then before you know it ... voila ... a yummy hot nourishing meal. And enough left over for another quick and easy meal later in the week. perfect.

You were feeling a little better yesterday, and yet I dont think you've been around much today. I hope you are still okay today. Perhaps you've had a busy day doing something exciting? Last you said, was that you were seeing your GP after your latest post. I hope that went well?

Talk soon.

Sherry 🌺

I know you like skies, because you have photographed and altered some real beauties. Although I am not as clever as you with your camerawork and work with filters etc, I found these and thought you'd enjoy them.

hello @Owlunar

how are you today , thinking of you soo much my second mum xxxxx

I'm wondering how you are too @Owlunar ❤️
hi 👋 @Shaz51 ❤️

hello my sister @BlueBay

Hi @Shaz51 @BlueBay @Former-Member @outlander @Appleblossom

I haven't written anything over the weekend and Friday was a bad pain day - I actually wore a sling when I went to the supermarket with my helper - I really like to do my own shopping and emotionally I feel better doing that - I have spend the weekend caring for myself and taking things easy - preparing for the injection on Wednesday - the day after tomorrow - and not worrying about anything - putting off the idea that I will freak out on Wednesday when the time comes - which is what I do - even if I do keep it to myself and wish I had my dark green blankie. Sometimes I rattle off jokes with the people around me and that eases the situation - I am not looking forward to it but at the same time I am giving myself the best chance of having this injection work.

Seeing the picture of my MRI was a heart-and-mind-blasting-moment - perhaps it would be better if I didn't understand all these things but I do and I think I cope better because I do - and I keep learning. There is so much damage in that joint and still I never give up. Having an operation would be a major inconvenience I am not prepared for - a week in hospital and then - I would come home alone but I have domestic help. My firm belief is that I get over things better because I am alone - I have been there twice before but again - no thanks -

I am not an optimist - I am a glass half-empty person but my attitude is that I look at what's left and fully intend to get the best of everything available from what time I have left - and if I know the worst then of course I will never be disappointed - it works for me - anyhow.

This morning I felt like staying in bed but I got up and attended to morning tasks and sat down with my coffee and watched recorded TV and went to sleep for hours - wonderful - that was a wonderful way to pass the morning - it's a lovely sunny day but really cold here

I will answer people individually - it's easier that way - but thanks everyone

Dec

Hi @Former-Member

Those are lovely pictures - really beautiful - thanks so much

I know the injections you are talking about - I have had them from my old GP who retired and they worked really well - this is a different injection and I told my GP I was scared and he recommended a doctor in Melbourne who is known to be really good with these injections and so I am seeing him.

It is always my intention to get the best out of what's happening - so I ask - this means I often know where my next footstep will be and so I rang the taxi company about the maxi-taxi and so now I know to order a sedan when I make my call - I can't use my left arm to hoist myself in atm - I have been in such a position before - getting in and out of the back seat of a sedan can be awkward too - I often have to ask the driver to pull the front seat forward - ah - someone has been sitting in the front seat for it to be so far back - ahem - not everyone is into social distancing but I am

About spinal surgery - I was advised not to have it back in - 1996 I think - and I am glad I did not - surgical intervention has it's place but I think it's for younger people - sure - we all have pain at some stage - and some worse than others - moderate pain is enough for you to feel it pretty strongly - I get that - and know myself there are days when I sit it out with the wheat pack for most of the day which is not encouraging -

I read an earlier post of yours that you do feel like your husband's property - and wonder who you are sometimes and rarely have anything to say - I can assure you that you do write very well.

For me - I got married when I was 22 and that was too young. I wanted to leave home and the only way I could do it was to get married - and that is not a good reason - and I didn't really know the man I was marrying - we had not lived together and even the week before we married when my husband-to-be and I arrived at my home the front light would flick on and off and on and off to tell me to get inside. What a fuss if I didn't! My father was a good man and loving but authoritian and mmy mother was just plain controlling - how could anyone make a decent decision under those circumstances. I let my daughter live with the man she eventually married and it seems to me to be a success - they knew each other when they did get married - what do they say about try before you buy? I sure wish I had -

But you don't have it easy either and you have chosen to stay - and it seems to me you have made a decision to stay and not just staying. It does seem to me that with all the trauma in your life you are a wonderful person - lost sometimes - perhaps often - and it must be difficult living with someone who blames you for everything - I wish there was something really useful I could say about that - I really care

Thanks Sherry - I am so glad you are my friend

Dec

Ah - yes - the is my Monday owl 🙂