Life can be a Pain

Thanks @BlueBay

You are right - being in pain is not fun at all - it's dragging me down but I am entitled to take stronger medication than most people and this helps - I also know how to stack my pillows and get one pillow and the wheat pack under my scapular and then wriggle a bit until I am comfortable and hopefully go to sleep in that position

I hope your CÓVID-19 test is negative and you do need to rest - I am sorry you have to have the littlie in the bedroom with you - you really need to be able to rest for as long as possible at night - and even social spacing with a house-full is rough and tough and noisy and chaotic

I would like you to insist that you have the bedroom to yourself for a couple of hours each afternoon and have a sign on the door insisting you not be disturbed. Your sore throat will probably settled by then - if you happen to have tonsillitis if you get some antibiotics it will settled quickly so follow that up if it doesn't settle - and try making up some lemon and honey and add a little warm water - that should go down well - I use that one when I get a sore throat and I did get tonsillitis a few years ago - my through was bright red and looked like it had little cauiiflowers growning back there - and it felt rotten

I am glad you have time off work until after you have had your wrists operated on - are you having one or them both done. And yes - it is best to care for your physical health first - my guess is if you get rid of some of those issues then your Mental Health will improve too

Take it easy over the weekend - the family can get out to exercise now and I think we have a nice day coming up tomorrow - I hope you can just nap and read and drink something that will soothe your throat

Dec

Thsnks @Owlunar

I'm taking it easy this weekend. I might try to go for a small walk around the block just to get done fresh air.
ive just gargled with salt and water. Will go thst agsin lster. I can't have honey as I'm fructose intolerant but I'll have hit water and lemon.
Had a migraine during the night. Took some meds and it's gone now.
I hope you can get some rest too with your painful shoulder.

I had an argument with hubby this morning. He couldn't find the jam in fridge. Not in spot where he originally left it. Omg it was like world war three.
I said to him to move things around and you'll find the jam. Oh but why should he move things. It should be where he left it. I said to him "no one else complains when they can't find something they just look" and then I said "you have OCD where you want everything in order" he didn't like that. But I don't care. I told him he was been ridiculous as others in this house don't huff and puff if they can't find something.
omg why is he getting worse.
im now crying. Why am I crying??

sorry I'm going for now.

Hi @Owlunar

wondering how you are? Thinking of you ❤️❤️

Thanks - @BlueBay and everyone else

I'm just sending brief messages

I saw the surgeon today and I am echaisted - any surgery would be massive - the idea is to see how conservative methods work first

I saw the pic of the MRI - it's bad - years of wear and tear - it's a lot to take in

Dec 🤔

Oh no @Owlunar

thats not good. I feel for you so much. It must terribly hard to live with pain

thinking if you Dec ❤️❤️

Hi @BlueBay

Thanks for your thoughtful comments - I hear you and your concern - which is comforting

I have long since learned to live with pain - terrible and horrible are not words I think of - intense and stressful - yes - and tiring - sometimes I find it intrusive - and sometimes it is hard to plan my life -

I find the trips I have away helpful - planning them and then having them and then remembering them is always helpful - and this is not happening right now - I would like to see my grand-daughter in July but unless Queensland opens its borders that wont happen - so I am thinking more about Cairns again in September - I just love it there

Chronic pain can only be managed - not cured - oddly enough having medical problems is easier in my old age - possibly because pathology shows up on an MRI - very plainly - and yet having something done about anything feels more intrusive - I guess I have got used to it - whatever it is

And living alone with it is probably better - I have to keep active because I need to run my own home and attend to my own affairs myself - which is better I think - and there is no one is my way or making demands of me when I am not up to it

So - yes - another thing is Mental Health issues - earlier in my life I had medical issues that it was often hard to get the medical profession to take seriously - and a lot of things are caused by stress - I understand this because I have lived through it - but stress can confuse issues too which is not at all even-handed as you know

But thanks for caring - I do appreciate it

Dec

Hi @BlueBay @Appleblossom @TAB @Former-Member @Zoe7 @Faith-and-Hope @MDT @Bunniekins @outlander etc

I am just updating information about my left shoulder - what fun this is? I felt really useless yesterday - I got up early to see the shoulder specialist but found it really hard to get myself ready - I guess I knew the news would be unpleasant - yes - it is

Surgery - it would be a reverse shoulder replacement - I am not going to try and explain that - it's a big operation though - and necessary if I have an operation because my shoulder tendons are worn out along with the rest of the joint - I already knew this before the MRI - a little medical knowledge is a good thing but finding that I was right doesn't give me any joy -

I can and did ask the right questions though and understood the answers

So - I will be taking the conservative route to start - injections into my shoulder but not the same ones as I have from the pain specialist. I have to see mt GP about that - aw - there are times when enough is enough - that was true yesterday but I feel better about it today

I had a ride in a very bumpy maxi-taxi - oh my stars.......... - that was fun after having had the shoulder moved around and stress-tested by the surgeon - who said I am pretty strong really and let's not lose sight of that or the strength itself - bumpity, thumpity, bumpily - grumpity - wow - ouch and botheration - I was totalled when I got home and took my medication and fell asleep without drinking the coffee I was hanging out for. I was so ratted out - I did cook and eat dinner but I couldn't really clear up afterward - I woke up to a messy kitchen but I had washed the dishes. I went to bed and read for a long time wishing this would all go away

Well the distressing emotions did - a good sleep helped a lot - I think accepting the truth can be hard - mostly it's the truth that old age is no place for sissies and thank God I am rarely sooky. Entitled sometimes - yesterday I was entitled

I feel okay today - did I already say that? I am though - and cooking a hot pot for my lunch and then seeing my GP - and I am really glad I am taking the conservative route - I can manage the reduced movement in my shoulder - I have for years and years - and the pain can be managed

Thanks everyone for your posts and supports - and now I just need to see my GP

Dec

Thinking of you @Owlunar

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Dear @Owlunar

I havent been posting that much this past week ... feeling quite emotionally exhausted with all that revealing stuff on my own thread last week I think. It was all quite draining.

I have been meaning to get back to your post to me here on 27th May. I have had the notification held in my email inbox as a reminder to get back to you on it.

Firstly, I'm sorry that you felt teary at my reveals around DV issues, and losing a sense of self. I'm sure it happens a lot to many people. Yes its pretty hard trying to be all things to all people, and losing track of who you are yourself. I think I did that a long time ago. True ... I am my husbands property and little more than that. I have tried in the past to be a little stronger and stick up for myself, but unfortunately it only results in repercussions that I dont wish to go through again. Its really hard. So in the end ... I just let things be by keeping the peace as much as possible and towing the line. Since he has become so unwell these past couple of years though ... I am beginning to exert a little bit of control. Partly because he is not always capable of making decisions. He is looking more and more to me to make decisions now and take responsiblity for everything. So when things go wrong .. then naturally its all my fault. But there again, it was before too .. even when I had no say in things. So no different there really.

A classical pianist ... how lovely! Wow ... I love classical music, and have lots of CDs. What a shame that your arthritic hands now prevent you being able to play very much. I imagine being able to play the piano or keyboard would be very soothing if it werent for the arthritic hands. 😔 At least you are still able to play occasionally, and perhaps its even good for the purposes of maintaining some flexibility in the fingers and hands.

Wasnt it nice to hear from @Zoe7 yesterday! I was very relieved, as I'm sure were a number of other members.

Okay, thats it from this week-old post from you. I will get back to you soon, via a seperate post, on your recent updates about your shoulder. Again, I'm sorry it took so long to respond. I've just been a bit quiet lately.

Sherry 💕