Life can be a Pain

❤️ @Owlunar

I need to go @Owlunar im in bed but flashbacks of abuse are triggering me at the moment. I’m scared I won’t be able to sleep. Thankyou fir being such a caring person. I’ve really missed our chats and glad we can chat now. Gosh now I’m crying.

Take care @Owlunar xxoo

Hi @Owlunar I have read all about your troubles over the last few posts and I am glad your migraine has settled down. It would be great if the surgeon could see your daughter sooner - as you said - this has been going on for a long time. Sorry I haven't been able to engage here with you - been doing things tough for a few days myself so stayed away from the forum. Just working my way around threads now and then will log off myself for the night again. Sending you a warm smile and a huge hug though Dec

@Owlunar,

no need to apologise, we know what it’s like to have no energy for even thinking at times. You look after you first, but I’m so glad you did post today.

When things happen all-at-once - it does make the day so much harder. “If it doesn’t rain it pours” comes to mind.

- migraines suck! And tend to wipe out an entire day, rest up.

- how did you go at the doctor this afternoon?

- not doing ordinary chores for days isn’t that important. But a sign you’re certainly not yourself 😞

- feeling tired & waves of hopelessness unde recent circumstances, and weather changes, is perfectly natural.

That temptation to quit is common to so many of us here - but

“big decisions need to be made on your best days”

I’m glad you’re NOT inclined to do that

“all the bitzpiecez of ordinary life that are needing attention right now - sure would feel overwhelming, but to feel like

“doing a puzzle in the dark”

”with hands tied”

thats impossible 😞

Aww Dec, 😞 sounds like you really need some help - there’s no shame in it. Do you have anyone you can trust?

but I do understand when you’ve been so independent & capable alone most your life.

Something you said really spoke to me: “ it all comes to pass and I can sit it out and I will sit it out - I will deal with all I have in front of me” 🙂

wow, that’s a powerful affirmation - you go girl! but do go gently 🌸

I hear you - being ‘very tired’ and it’s no wonder with emotional things and physical pains 😞

Rest up 🙂

Glad your grand-daughter is recovering well, And your daughters hyster is coming up quickly, and people are respecting your uncles privacy but keeping you adequately informed - keep praying for him.

you don’t have to perform for us Dec.

just ad you are

“you are enough”

be be still a while 🙂

Thanks @Zoe7 - I understand - we have to put ourselves first at times - it can be a rather isolated path at times but it is a place to learn - at least - I find that

Sending some warm smiles and hugs bace Zoe

I really love the blue sneakers

Dec

Yes @Owlunar we sometimes have to put ourselves first to be able to just get through the day - something I think I am learning to do for myself more as time goes on. It will become even more important for me when I return to work - I cannot go back to how it used to be when work ran my life - I need much more of a balance and planty of timeout for myself. I suppose only time will tell what that looks like but knowing there are people here that I have support from will undoubtedly make that path easier. You have been one of those great supports for me for a long time now - that never goes unnoticed Dec and I am truly grateful for everything you have done for me. I may not be around much over the next week but I will be thinking about you and hope that life becomes a little easier for you ...something you not only need but deserve

Thanks @Adge ....

I am not big on natives, but my mother was ..... and I thought these were gorgeous too. I am glad you like them @Owlunar. Feeling for you too .....

They're South-African flowers @Faith-and-Hope Proteas & Leucadendrons.

They're related to Australian Banksias & Grevilleas (but not Australian).

I love them, they're amongst my favourites - though mine didn't survive.

Thinking of you @Owlunar I sending you warm, supportive thoughts.

Adge

Thanks for that @Adge .... good to know .... 👍

@Owlunar Has your cat always been a "scratchy" type or is this something that has occurred over the past year or so? I just wonder if she's getting irritable due to old age, or maybe physical discomfort.

Just a thought.

Sweet Dreams to you. ✨✨

Thanks @utopia

It's going to be a hard call about my cat - she is old and getting irritable - and she has always been a bit scratchy and not just at me but my second-hard lounge suite has been part of her programme - I have been having her claws clipped regularly for years now

When she was about a year old I had to give her antibiotics and she really had a go at the inside of my right arm - ouch - for that I had an injection of antibiotics myself and a anti-tetanus injection and the vet had to help me out with that with a tablet they gave her every few days at the clinic

But I have had more scratches over the last couple of years - not this bad though

This morning I was sleeping off my injection from yesterday and having her snuggle on my lap was wonderful but I never know when she will leap off me -

She may have a bad tooth - she has an appointment to have her teeth scaled and getting that tooth out if necessary but the vet doesn't think that's the problem because if they have toothache cats tend to rub at their muzzle and she doesn't do that when I am looking

She is getting crabby in her old age - there will be food in her plate and yet she bitches at me because she's not getting a treat of chicken.

I guess I will be taking her to the vet again to have her checked out but that might mean it's the last visit and I am putting it off - she saw the vet for her checkup and shots not long ago -

It's really hard but my GP was firm - as we get older our skin gets thin and a bad cat scratch can cause problems

All this might seem less as time passes - it might be one of those things among all the other problems - large and small - I have had lately - it will be a tough call though - I can't imagine life without her

Dec