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Life can be a Pain

DecadianSenior Contributor

Life can be a Pain

Hi @BlueBay@Zoe7@Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@utopia@oceangirl@TAB@Shaz51@PeppiPatty

I know there are more people I could tag but maybe I will think them up as I go along - actually I already have

I think I need my own thread - mostly my problem is chronic pain syndrome - I damaged my spine with the sporting excesses of my youth - a long time ago now - and I managed to rearrange it when I fell of my pushbike in a wind storm nearly 22 years ago and that seems a long time ago now but there is nothing they can do except treat the pain - and I do have Section 8 medication and I see a pain specialist

And the pain has been worse lately and wears me down and I get fed up and very tired -

I have issues with my mother as well - and although she died 2 years ago I still have bad times now and again - she was abusive and as well as I know myself and her this can get to me at times - and this is another reason I opened my own thread

Then there is TS - my Toxic Sister - she was under my skin for a while but not at the moment

So yesterday I felt so bad when I went to see the doctor about my back pain - and my pain specialist has cut my medication back several times over the last few years and she has gone too far - and I started to tell my doctor - yes - I cope with the pain better since my mother died - but it's driving me crackers atm and so are the memories of my mother

So that's it for now - I have had trouble opening this thread for some reason but now I have - I will run my own story - I would like to think I don't need to but yes - I do

You are all such wonderful supportive people - you are my soft place to land - that is so true

And anyone I have missed I will tag as I go along

Lots of hugs everyone

Dec

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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Night @utopia sleep well

Lol @Owlunar world issues casually chatted over a cuppa i can def see

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Unknown userMember

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Thanks guys, appreciate it (one of my weaknesses - needing validation. Then again, we are all connected.

@Owlunar, its just that time of year - gonna have to 'cut ourselves some slack' & you have taught me much about that. Thank you. Bad sciatica kicked in yesterday, don't know why, stockwd up on all the analgesic last night, rembering you @these times inspires me. Thanks ❤

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Sophia1Senior Contributor

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@outlanderwrote:

good news about your daughter, though im sorry it had to come to that @Owlunar time to rest for you

short on words so will leave these here for you

love the owls...

my mum loves owls...

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Sophia1Senior Contributor

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hello @Former-Member

I am not very good at following threads with several posts....

I only seem able to flit....hide somewhere for a while...then withdraw into a thread that I have written.....eventually return to threads where not much traffic...

I know that the busy threads means that people are being heard ...gives me time to rest...I still think about those people..

I will always remember you lapses...

I do know how the not being tagged feels though...I have felt the same...realising later it was just my own insecurity...with everything going on around me at the time...

tag me where you would like me to talk to you and I will at the times I am on here..

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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Morning @Former-Member @Sophia1 ..... anyone else about ..... 👋

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor

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Hello @Sophia1 @Decadian @Faith-and-Hope @outlander

Hearing about secondary impacts of war @utopia my dad was at same repat.

@Former-Member I definitely like having you around.

Going through my own little mini crisis about whether or not liking, posting or tagging somebody is a good thing or just annoying. At least with you I know you dont mind.

I just posted about a Peace Cantata I was involved with in last few years. The fellow who wrote it has just had it performed in Amien. It was to celebrate Monash as General whose strategies at Amien brought the WWI to a quicker close.

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utopiaSenior Contributor

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@Appleblossom. I hated that hospital. It was late 70's & all of the 80's. They really didn't do anything for him other than constantly misdiagnose him. I also really dislike the Dept of Vet Affairs - as they did nothing to help dad. Infact they did everything they could - over years - to try and prevent him getting the TPI Pension.
I don't mind when people tag me. I always 'like' the post to acknowledge I have read it and hear what is being said. And when I feel able - I always respond. Also happy to be tagged in new posts if people think I have similar experience or may be able to help.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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Both mr’s parents suffered war trauma as children ....

We become the new front lines in terms of trying to stop inherited trauma from rolling forward into future generations if we can bring in under control in ours.

@Appleblossom @utopia @Owlunar @Former-Member @Sophia1 ..... and I know there are others on the forums affected this way.

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor

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We were there in early 70s. @utopiaMy father died there, over medicated. Maybe he would have become an alcoholic but I never saw that, tho I had a friend whose dad was, so I would have smelt it.

@Shaz51 Yep there are pros and cons to being married or single.

Best approach is to enjoy as much as we can, cos bad stuff happens anyway.

Yep @Faith-and-Hope The costs of war are legion.

Good night All @Decadian

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utopiaSenior Contributor

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@Faith-and-Hope. You see trauma passed on from parents to their children. Seen it many times from those whose parents were under German (can't use the other wird here) occupation. So awful.
@Appleblossom. So sorry to hear that your dad died at that hospital from over medicating. It doesn't happen as much now as it did decades ago, but there are still a few cases where patients do die from iver medicating. I had a friend die last month. We believe this is what happened to him. But still have a few more weeks until the toxicology and autopsy results come back.
No one wins in war. There are only looses.
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