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Life can be a Pain

DecadianSenior Contributor07 Feb 2017, 1:19 pm AEDT

Life can be a Pain

Hi @BlueBay@Zoe7@Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@utopia@oceangirl@TAB@Shaz51@PeppiPatty

I know there are more people I could tag but maybe I will think them up as I go along - actually I already have

I think I need my own thread - mostly my problem is chronic pain syndrome - I damaged my spine with the sporting excesses of my youth - a long time ago now - and I managed to rearrange it when I fell of my pushbike in a wind storm nearly 22 years ago and that seems a long time ago now but there is nothing they can do except treat the pain - and I do have Section 8 medication and I see a pain specialist

And the pain has been worse lately and wears me down and I get fed up and very tired -

I have issues with my mother as well - and although she died 2 years ago I still have bad times now and again - she was abusive and as well as I know myself and her this can get to me at times - and this is another reason I opened my own thread

Then there is TS - my Toxic Sister - she was under my skin for a while but not at the moment

So yesterday I felt so bad when I went to see the doctor about my back pain - and my pain specialist has cut my medication back several times over the last few years and she has gone too far - and I started to tell my doctor - yes - I cope with the pain better since my mother died - but it's driving me crackers atm and so are the memories of my mother

So that's it for now - I have had trouble opening this thread for some reason but now I have - I will run my own story - I would like to think I don't need to but yes - I do

You are all such wonderful supportive people - you are my soft place to land - that is so true

And anyone I have missed I will tag as I go along

Lots of hugs everyone

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utopiaSenior Contributor26 Apr 2018, 3:04 am AEST

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What do us children know of war @Owlunar ? You remember the shortages. I remember my father screaming during his nightmare flashbacks of Vietnam. I remember a very angey and violent man. I remember how we went with mum to get hekp from the Department if Veteran Affairs and how they turned her away. I remember the psychiatrist telling her that if she leaves dad - he will suicide and it would be ger fault (late 70's - early 80's). I remember taking him to the Heidelberg Hospital. I remember him walking home again. And ys taking him right back. I remember the stench if beer on his breath. I remember how it took over 20 years fir him to be diagnosed with PTSD. I remember him on such strong psych meds that he was like a zombie. I remember him dying at age 53. I remember how tormented he was - my whole life. So yes. We remember. And there is nothing good to remember about war. And yet our service men and women are still suffering fromffighting in wars. And the government keeos encouraging youth to sign up. Rant over.

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Unknown userMember26 Apr 2018, 6:39 am AEST

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Must look up those prayers Dec. Hang in there. What's the plans for your day? Always something to do here. Had the Dawn Service with dad yesterday & practically slept the day away after that, so it's 'catchup' jobs today xox

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Unknown userMember26 Apr 2018, 9:21 pm AEST

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Hi ppl who 'like' & anyone who actually wants me here ❤

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MDTSenior Contributor26 Apr 2018, 9:30 pm AEST

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Well said @utopia

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OwlunarSenior Contributor26 Apr 2018, 10:59 pm AEST

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I always want you here @Former-Member

I have been exhausted today and left my chores until late and just came on line

You are one of the best

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OwlunarSenior Contributor26 Apr 2018, 11:03 pm AEST

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Rant away about that war @utopia

The way our soldiers were treated was really bad and you were a front row observer to all of that - and that is really horrible for a small child or young person - anyone really

I'm sorry Utopia

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outlanderSenior Contributor26 Apr 2018, 11:08 pm AEST

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@Former-Member of course we want you hear! 💕

Hi @Owlunar @utopia and everyone passig through too

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OwlunarSenior Contributor26 Apr 2018, 11:16 pm AEST

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@Former-Memberwrote:
Must look up those prayers Dec. Hang in there. What's the plans for your day? Always something to do here. Had the Dawn Service with dad yesterday & practically slept the day away after that, so it's 'catchup' jobs today xox

I took things really slowly today @Former-Member - I slept well but woke up tired and stayed tired all day - but fell asleep late in the afternoon - or rather I woke up late - whatever time I went to sleep - and then I did my chores

I think I am run down - really tired and I have to look after myself first - then my daughter - and after both of us have recovered I will go to Hobart and see what's happening there - with my relatives so ill - or whatever seems right at the time

I'm glad you went to the Dawn Service with your Dad - I went one year - to the Shrine in Melbourne - is was fantastic and I am so glad I went that year because the chance never presented itself again though we can never tell - I might go again sometime

I'm feeling better myself tonight - maybe I will be tired again tomorrow - but I have had a decent dinner and after a nap today maybe I will be okay

Those prayers are in the big red Anglican Prayer Book - called the Red Brick - and the prayers are at the back and for just about anything we could need - my uncle gave me my copy and I have used it but never read the back section - I hope you can find one because those prayers are really something

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utopiaSenior Contributor26 Apr 2018, 11:17 pm AEST

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Thanks @Owlunar. Unfortunately I think most generations have experience of war either first hand or second hand like me. And yet the powers that be still think it's wise to sacrifice people to war. Maybe us pacifists should be running the countries around the world. Lol.
Hi @outlander @Former-Member and all. Hope everyone has had a good day.
I'm off to take some sleeping tablets to try and reset my sleep clock. Wish me well.

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OwlunarSenior Contributor26 Apr 2018, 11:20 pm AEST

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Sleep well @utopia

If women ran the world we would be inclined to sort out our differences with a cup of whatever and our knitting

That could be why men want to run the world - politicians often seem to have a lot to prove

I'm a Pacifist

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